difficulty making new friends at school Yr

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just wanted some advice as to wether this is normal or not DD has started in reception, she was vey popular at nursery and has about 2 friens she keeps in touch with and another friend seperate from nursery that she regulary meets up. since starting school she has been thriving and so wrapped up in the learning and etc. but I think she is struugling to make frinds and find her nieche. At nursey and generaly she was mother hen and hates to miss anything and knows the ins and out of a cats you know what. but since starting school she is ademant she does not have frinds and does not want any friends in her class she is very taken by the older children and talks about them endlessly, on the way in and out of school all the older children relish her and talk to her and she seeks them out. Im just worried she is not mixing well enough in her class. parents evening teacher tells me she is fine and happy and plays well with others but does like to be right next to teacher and organise every one else and teacher is dealing with this well by enouraging and reminding her to play. should i be worried or is this just normal adjustment. wow very long sorry..what is others experience of this.

oh and what lead me to be concerned is that this evning she wanders into the kitchen and asks..mum from going places and meeting people how do you know if they realy are your friends?? that made me worried

She sounds very bright....to question what makes someone a friend is very advaned thinking in my opinion.

If you want to answer that and help her at the same time you can tell her that it is shared experiece which makes frieinds...doing and learning together for quite a long time.

As she is so young and her teachers are happy , you should no worry yet...they are pretty little still and most tnd to play with whoever is about or doing what they themselves enjoy.

she is very bright and very good and so was often relied upon at nursery to show a good example not that I think she was used in that way but i think she was definatly encouraged in this caring role.

I answered it in way of saying that everyone in her class is her friend and a true friend is someone you play well with and enjoy being with and want to spend time with again, i gave example of her friend who has been on holiday and she asked about so I explained that she missed her and has thought about her at times when they have not been together and so that makes thier time together special. And also reminder her of the boy from her class who spoke to her on her bike today and asked her about her bike bell because he is her friend and wanted to show he was interested in her bike. she was a bit glum after school aswell so think im just over thinking this.

im just worried she conecting with the older children to much who will not provide the type of play she needs at her age.

Maybe she is feeling the diference in not being the reliable or more mature one anymore? Maye she's eperimenting with the older kids...a new feeling perhaps in being the smaller/less experienced one.

She sounds lovely...and like she's sussing it all out...my own DD did not speak for an entire term...not to anyone. Bless her...she's like a completely different child now she's in year 2!

that is reassuring that your dd has adjusted well it has only been a few weeks after all and im sure they just need to re define thier role. she has gone from big kid to little kid and that must be difficult, as it probably was for your DD as they are very well known at nursey and pre school and then have a whole new begining. i think that maybe what you say is true that she is getting some sort of attention from the older kids as teacher is not realy buying into this bossy boots role. bless her!