My son is being very difficult at the moment, with lots of wild, uncontrollable behaviour, temper tantrums, not doing what he's asked at school, and arguing with everyone at home. I have 3 sons and I'm well used to doing reward charts - usually along the lines of 'you'll get a star every day you behave well, and when you get 5 stars you can have a toy/sweet etc'. This time though I think it needs to be more instant - meaning, I want to reward or penalise for each display of positive or negative behaviour. If he stops charging around when asked, instant reward. If he doesn't get dressed after being asked twice, instant penalty.
I was thinking of a jar, to which I add marbles or something, then take them away, and the amount of marbles at the end of each day = an amount of pocket money or sweets, or time on the laptop. Does anyone have any other ideas of more 'grown up' reward systems for this age of child?