My dd, 3.6, has always gone to a childminder for 2 days a week, while I work, and been pretty happy (loves cm, doesn't like getting up in morning). She's now at nursery, on the free 15 hours, and the way it works at our local is that she does 5 mornings, 9-11.30, then on Wed is there till 3.15 (DH picks up), and on Thursday is picked up by childminder at 11.30.
She loved her first day so much that she didn't want to leave, but was then freaked out by the full day involving lunch. I now have a situation where every night she tells me she "never never ever ever" wants to go to nursery, and is not going the next day. Once we're up, breakfasted, dressed etc I can usually talk her into it, but it's hard. Bar two days in 3 weeks, she always has a great time, is making friends, talks about what she's done etc. But when it comes to bed time, we're back to "never ever", and have had some weepy troubled nights.
Last week I kept her home Mon as she was poorly, but sent her on Tuesday and rest of week. Realised this weekend when she refused to go out (even to the park) that she wasn't actually as better as I'd thought. Last night we were up from 3 till 5.30 with her bouncing back from our bed to hers, clearly anxious, and frankly both too knackered to get up and get anyone anywhere this morning.
So... DH thinks we should just make her go every morning, and she will eventually concede to the routine. Mine is that she's finding 5 days a bit hard, so I should give in and let her do maybe 3 for a while, maybe upping after Christmas. Hers is that she only ever wants to go to the childminders:-)
Any thoughts?? (sorry for long post, am confused and knackered).