School behaviour

[starrychime]

Had the opportunity to have a qick chat with DD's teacher the other day, not formally or anything, just 'how's DD getting on?' Basically problem with shouting out instead of putting hand up and waiting, and this seems to be an ongoing thing since last year I sort of remember the same thing being mentioned at last year's parent's night. Teacher didn't seem that worried but it's obviously an issue. How can I get this to stop if I'm not there! She's almost 7. Is it an attention thing do you think? Should I get her to put her hand up and wait when she wants anything in the house for practice Actually, that was a joke but now wondering if it might actually work?

DS' speech therapist said that when he shouts at me and loses his temper, to pause until he's listenign and then ask him what he wants. It did work. I know your DD doesn't have a speech prob but might work in a similar way.

Or something like "please ask me calmly" or "wait until I have finished my job and then you can ask me" etc.

Is she used to being an only child or is she often fighting for attention over a younger/older sibling?

it's up to the teacher to stop it

just reinforce at home

and they should reward when she gets it right

She's my one and only - maybe that's a problem, being used to getting more or less immediate attention from me? I do sometimes have to tell her to calm down and wait but usually at home there's nothing needing my attention but her if you know what I mean? It's the problem at school bothering me as I don't have control over it and I'd like to be able to help sort it out.

activate is right though - it is up to the teacher at school to pull her up for it.

Perhaps it's because there isn't a sibling to compete for your attention at home that you simply answer straight away. That's not a negative thing though .

She will get used to it (she's only 7 after all).

Could you just chat to her about waiting and putting up her hand but in a way like "your teacher has so many children and she can't listen to everyone at once. You need to wait until she asks you after you have put up your hand, then ask your question" type thing. Girls at that age are generally quite selfish and everything, whether they are an only child or not, revolves around them. Don't forget, she may be telling lots of parents similar things too; it won't only be your child.