Bullying 4 year old :(

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Oh God, my dd has just started early years at school and the last two days dh has been told by her teacher that she has been pushing, scratching and hitting another little girl because this little girl wouldn't play with her The ironic thing is that I thought she would get bullied as she has a hearing impairment!! She is quite big for her age but has been at nursery full time for a year without anything like this happening - although she did go through a phase of behaving very badly with inanimate objects! We've tried to discuss it with her but she just gets really upset and 'hates' us too! What is the best way of approaching this???

Oh dear

I'd say, for now, the best way is to leave it up to the school to deal with specific insidents, but talk to her daily about what you expect of her, re-enforce the positive (be gentle, be kind) rather than stating the negative (don't hurt anyone, don't push).

If it continues talk to the school and come up with a united plan, like a stamp chart etc.

Don't start labelling her as 'bullying' just yet. She is just pushing the boundaries. A good teacher and support staff will help her express her frustration and anger better.

She used the phrase 'bullying'. She was quite open about it 'I've been bullying today' . I've suggested that if she feels sad or angry to speak to a teacher about it first. I just feel so - the poor little girl and her parents..

Well....don't freak. My DD has been on both ends...she had a massive tantrum in reception over her chosen friend not wanting to play...she also in year 1 had another child puhing her about and not letting her play with anyone else!

It's normal teething troubles...try to ncourage her to play with lots of kids...in my DC's school they have a thing where designated older kids rganise circle games for the tinies...who at 4 and 3 still need help to socialise...they also teach them to skip and hula hoop....dont worry too much. It will get better.