DD (23 months) won't use duvet at night, or sleeping bag, or blanket....

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DD is nearly 23 months. Great sleeper from early on. I always used sleeping bags and she has been in her cotbed (sides still on) since she was 4 months old.

DS arrived in June and a few weeks later DD started undoing her sleeping bags, taking them off and standing in her cot wailing at night. After many 'back into the bag' attempts I started covering her with her fleecy blanket that she used sometimes for her nap after lunch. That lasted a week or so and she then got hysterical if we tried to tuck her in at night with it, or just lay it over her. 'No Tuck! No Tuck! No Tuck!'

So we started putting her to bed in pyjama tops, bottoms and socks and leaving the blanket at the end of the bed for her. I got her a Night Garden duvet - again, hysterical at any attempts to lay it over her.

We play games - Tuck, Tuck, Tuck involves us laying in my bed and tucking the duvet over us and pretending to snore. DD loves it and makes us play it often. We also practise '1,2,3' - 1 is sit up in her bed, 2 she grabs the duvet, 3 she lays down pulling it over her. Then she kicks it off frantically yelling Noooooooooooooooooooooo.

It's now getting colder and she was up at 3am crying last night - I put a warm jumper on her, but again she wouldn't let me tuck her in at all.

HELP! Do I just put her to bed in a hundred layers? Sew her hysterically screaming into a sleeping bag? Just keep leaving the duvet in her bed until she uses it?????

Or

Just put her in her pajama's give her a blanket and wait for her to kick off the blanket and remove the pajama's but leave her to it.

My DC's (all 3 of them) are like this.
Our house isn't that hot usually around 18degrees C. They're obviously not cold and it sounds like your DD isn't either.

With central heating and better insulation our homes are much warmer than they were when we were children. I bet your DD will let you know if she gets cold.
Let here be.

Put your heating on. Put socks on. Leave the blanket where she can get it.

When she gets cold she will learn to put the blanket on.

Stop stressing. She won't freeze.

One of those fleecy all in one sleepsuits might be worth a try? They sell them in Boots and Mothercare definitely, up to about age 5.

DS1 always kicked his covers off at that age so I used to put him in fleecy all in one suits that stopped him getting too cold. I used to put a thin duvet over him but it never lasted long.

I wouldn't fight with her as it just makes it into a bigger issue, but dress her warmly so she doesn't get cold and I'm sure it will sort itself out in time.

The fleecy suits were quite easy to get hold of - I think ours were from Sainsbury's and Mothercare

The fleecy suits sound good, I'll get her one of those to try - our house does get pretty cold at night (1950's not well insulated in Scotland on top of a hill).

I've been really relaxed with her about it all, just making up games so she knows what to do, but spending an hour up last night as she cried on and off from 3-4am was horrible and cold was the obvious thing to have woken her. I know she wakes in the night often, I hear her when I am sorting out DS in our room, but she chats to herself and then just goes back to sleep.

They are amazing though - she's skinny as anything while I am much more insulated, and I am huddling under my 13.5 tog duvet with DH in the bed!

You had a new baby in June and the summer was warm. This was a perfect way to get some attention. This is natural. It's getting colder now. Please chill (no pun intended) over this and when she's cold I'm sure she'll cover up but I think you need to stop the cover up games in your bed!

Good luck

I would definitely get a fleecy sleepsuit. It is all very well saying that she will soon learn (yes of course she will), but in the mean time you will get endless 3am wake up calls when she wakes up like an ice block. My DD2 was just like this. I didn't use a fleecy sleepsuit, but it sounds like it would have been a great idea. what worked for us was simply tucking her in once she was asleep (she wouldn't countenance it when awake). Once she'd dropped off I'd put the duvet over her and tuck her in super tightly both sides with a long blanket. That ended the 3am wake up as she couldn't kick the duvet off in her sleep then freeze as she usually did

Seconding the fleece all in ones - they are great. Woolies used to do them so you might get one online. My DD is too big for them now but I'd have her in them til she was a teenager if I could!

Primark do them too, for a fraction of the price, might be worth a try getting one of the cheaper ones (possibly around £4) in case she doesn't like it/it doesn't work.

I was going to suggest Primark fleecey suit too. You'll get much nicer ones in Mothercare etc, but the Primark ones are a fraction of the price. My girls love them!