When the health visitor advised me not to spoonfeed my son but to allow him to pick the food up with his hands and self feed, it threw everything into chaos as he was in a routine of being fed. We bought a highchair with a divider tray, rather than using a plate and he eventually got the hang of it and is now pretty good at feeding himself the majority of meals. However he has recently started at nursery and they mentioned that he wasn't eating very well. When I picked him up last time I noticed that they sit the children in play-ring type seats and feed them from a spoon at mealtimes and I assume that this is what is causing him problems. They do not seem to use highchairs at all. He is not yet able to use a spoon for himself and I don't know what to do for the best. Should I return to spoon-feeding him which at his age may confuse him and make him a little bit lazy as he has been used to doing it himself (albeit messily) or plug on regardless with the self - feeding when he is being fed in a completely different way at nursery and hope he doesn't get confused?