Am in new territory here! DD2 (2.3) isn't very good at listening - I'm not quite sure as yet if this is a skill she's not picking up or if she's actively choosing to not listen (or even if she's capable of such a choice!)
As background - DD1 was a late talker. Really only started developing vocabulary at about 2.3 (the age DD2 is now) and was only really beginning to hold a conversation by about 3. However, she has always been fabulous at listening - looks at you, gestures or tells you that she has understood, gives you her complete focus but she is generally quite biddable anyway.
DD2 on the other hand is, erm, the opposite! She talked very early - has been holding full blown conversations since well before she was 2, blows me away with what she comes out with (although this is partially because I have late-talking DD1 to compare her to 
). She is generally not very biddable ()- definitely has her own mind IYKWIM. Her listening is definitely not great - no focus, difficult to get her to look at you etc..
I don't think at the moment that I'm looking for any possible diagnosis for anything but I could do with tips to get her to listen better! So far - I turn off the television if it's on to get her attention, try to only make a fuss about her listening when it's something important, keep instructions or questions short. Is there anything else I can do to help (both her and me.. am finding it quite frustrating)?