Help me out - what would be an appropriate reaction and consequence for my 4yo?

[YunoYurbubson]

My 4yo dd has taken a tie from her father's wardrobe and ripped it up.

She did it at about 5.30 this morning while I was dozing and I thought she was reading her books on my bedroom carpet.

It was one of his favourites too, a lovely silk Liberty tie.

At the time I said I was VERY disappointed, and AMAZED that she would do something so mean to poor Daddy, and asked her what on earth she was thinking. She tried telling me it was her little brother, then said she didn't really know why she had done it. I didn't rant at her, I was too gobsmacked tbh.

So, I was thinking that she will have to tell Daddy what she did when he gets home this weekend.

What else? What is appropriate? I can't even decide if it is pure naughtiness, or attention seeking, or what. I mentioned it to a couple of friends who know her well and they were horrified and asked how I planned to punish her. I don't really do punishments, but I am also not sure what the logical consequence of ripping up her father's tie would be. I can't just let it by without some appropriate reaction.

Not sure what you can do TBH. Our DD is 9.5 now so I am racking my brain trying to remember whether she would have known she'd done something wrong or if it would have been considered accidental in her world. I suppose what I am trying to say is did she plan it and do it intentionally or was it spur of the moment?

She is too young for it to have been done with malicious intent.

I think she would have known it was a naughty thing to do though.

But she might just sort of done it without really having a motive. 4yos are still very impulsive.

Don't think old enough to know about it being someone else's property, or that it costs a lot of money. To her probably the same as tearing up a tissue from the tissue box. Think I would probably really emphasise how sad daddy is about it and get her to apologise. Mine's a little bit older than this but she's only really starting to get empathy and that we don't destroy things on a whim.