Kicking in a nearly 4 year old

[Justine2912]

Hi

wonder if you could help, my DS seems to be getting into the habit of kicking. I was pulled by the nursery on Friday and they said that he had to go sit in the corner as he had been kicking one of the older children, They did say that it might have been in the heat of the moment.

However today he has just gone and kicked his nana and the look on his face was pure nasty.

I am at a loss what to do with him as hes done nothing like this before and need some advice about how to stop it before it gets out of hand.

Any help would be appreciated

Sorry should also have added that hes just started Pre-school in the last month so wondering if that had anything to do with it

Not much help I'm afraid, but my ds (3.9) started pre-school lats month and his behaviour has deteriorated since; he has started hitting and tantruming since starting, which he has never done before. I am putting it down to the change in routine and the added expectations of school over childminder. I have just been really consistant with discipline and trying to keep sleep routines etc going to ensure he's not getting overtired.
At a party yesterday, another mum whose child has just started school said that this is the first weekend that her 4yo has not been on time-out since September. I think it may be a phase they are all going through....there's a couple of other threads on here about badly behaved littlies who have just started school.

Have a chat with him, tell him it's unacceptable and why (it hurts!). But, also help him to express his emotions, why might he have done it?- eg did another child make him cross by taking something he was playing with, what should he do- tell the other child not to do it/ignore it.
One word springs to mind, TESTOSTERONE!! I think boys get surges and it can surprise them and they don't know what to do with it initially. This happened with my DS a couple of months ago (he's nearly 4 now). He suddenly got a lot more aggresive, or at least had that look of going to be (quite scarey!). I sort of rode it out, I don't think you can stop the hormone from existing! but you can help them manage it (subtely of course..)