How can I help ds (7yo) to control his temper? Please help

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Ds has always been a bit firey, loses his temper quite easily. It is usually if he feels someone has done him wrong (rather than over things like not getting what he wants). So rather than spoilt-brat type of temper tantrums, he loses his temper if someone says something a bit mean.
We've kept reiterating that he shouldn't retaliate, that he should let things pass a bit more instead of argueing. It has, until today, always been purely verbal which is not okay, but better than today when he bit someone after they hurt him (jumped on his hand on climbing frame). He has never been physical before.
His teacher handled it brilliantly, and he had to do time out session as per school policy of course.
Very soon after he was terribly remorseful (genuinely) and apologised to the boy.

But really feel crap about this, both of us do.

Ideas, suggestions on how to help him control it beforehe gets in serious trouble.

I'm not sure this is a very good post, feeling a bit wobbley and somehow that I've failed in some way.

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is he allergic to any foods? My grandson became a demon with certain things. At least he (yours) knew he'd been naughty which is a positive sign.you can and do the star chart treat at end of week. try to ignore what really doesn't matter nothing worse for a tantrum thrower than being ignored.!!

I'm not sure about any food allergies - I'll have a look at what he's been eating etc.
Can you give me any ideas (or maybe I'll post on foodsection)

A star chart would be good but problem with that is that he shouts at people at school (as I said if he thinks things are unfair, or someone is just a bit out of order) and gets really cross. But since he usually forgets pretty quickly it may be hard to monitor.
He acts like loads of kids do towards their siblings (he has a big sister) but can't seem to control that anger to non-family members.

Hi there is a book from amazon you can buy called a volcano in my tummy re anger that has exercises re temper also look at the relax kids website. You could try a credit reward system where he gets rewards if he tries to control his temper. Also look at things to help his confidence/self esteem I am going through the same thing with my ten year old son.

Thanks Annem1 will look at that book. Really do think a lot is due to anxiety. He is super confident when he is familiar with something/someone, but if he is anxious (which he can be a lot esp in new situations or where he feels under pressure etc, he just explodes).
Thanks for that