'Can I pat your furry bottom?'

[Caththerese1973]

My dd, 2.6, has notcied my 'furry front bottom' (as she calls it) and sometimes wants to pat it! I don't want to be a fascist or make her feel funny about women's genitals...but I feel a bit weird about letting her pat her my pubes. I know my (ex) dp would think I was completely depraved if I did let her.
I was talking to my hippie friend about this and she said she lets her kids pat her 'fur' whenever they want.
Does this come up with other people? (I am not, by the way, one of those people who walks around naked all the time. DD just follows me around all day - into toilet, into shower - so of course she notices.)

Blimey, that's one I haven't had to face yet. But will remember jampot's (et al's) points.

Ds has a thing about pointing to all my freckles/moles and saying 'spot', 'spot', 'spot' etc. (I'm trying to teach him to say beauty spot but no luck so far. Typical). Last night I was lying on the bed with him, he pulled up my top to tickle my tummy, grabbed my nipple and yelled SPOT in a really victorious tone of voice'! Charming...

I agree with JAMPOTS too

swimming costumes cover parts of the body that are not to be touched by others as far as DS is concerned. IYSWIM.

That makes me laugh so much! Last week, when my 9 yr old nephew was here, he and dds 5 & 7 were having a 'silly' time. DD1 said 'Do you know, my mum's got a hairy bottom!'. Poor, sensitive nephew said 'let's just not talk about it.'

But I wonder, in years to come, if he'll think his auntie really does have a hairy bottom

edam, your post had me ROFL ...I think it was the 'victorious' bit that got me!

vickytiredmum, incidentally, my DD1 did just the same thing today. She told me she'd had a wee 'like daddy' I asked her to show me what she meant and she'd sat on the loo, facing backwards and was extremely pleased with herself . FWIW, I remember attempting to emulate my brother in the same way, when I was a child - just natural intrigue!

Cath, maybe if you aren't comfortable with it you could ask her why she wants to pat you there? I would imagine it is just to experience what that particular type of hair feels like, just intrigue again. Maybe if she touched it once her sense of intrigue would be satisfied? They love texture, to feel new things and this interest probably has very little, if anything to do with anything else, particularly at 2.6.

For similar reasons I did let my DD1 touch my pubes briefly, or rather, she touched and I didn't grab her hand away immediately - interest abated she didn't try again.

Now that she's 3.5 I have revisited the privacy aspect, but when she was younger, I wasn't interested in pushing the responsibility on her.

We live in NZ so if I told ds that anything behind his swimming costume shouldn't be touched I'd have to handle him by his wrists and ankles!

ds saw me putting a sanitary pad in my knickers last week and announced that "Mummy wears a nappy too!"

I should have said my DS is 10 years old

That is why we introduced the swimming costume idea

oh I get what you mean now bobbybob

cos your children wear all-in-one sun suit

The funniest thing my ds said when he was 3 to dh when he was weeing, was "Daddy your willy's got a beard "
I still laugh when I remember it :0

It was the sense of victory in his tone that got me, too badgerbadger.

Love 'your willy's got a beard' too. In the bath ds grabs his willy and says 'round and round and round'. Am storing that one up to tell his first girlfriend.

We're nudists at home, and often bath with the children, but have always told them that willies and so on are private, and that 'you are the only person allowed to touch your willy'. The clever little things worked out for themselves (and tell us) that Mummy and Daddy are allowed to touch when changing nappies. Of course it doesn't stop the curiousity, the intent looking, the questions ('Mummy, why do you have fluff on your willy?') and even requests to touch. I think it's the texture of the pubes that fascinates them, and when asked specifically I permitted them to touch, and curiosity satisfied they never asked again.

Dd also tries to wee at urinals when dh takes her into the gents with him and ds!

ROFL mummyvicky!

I do recall my younger brother bathing with my mum when he was 3 and when his foot slipped between her legs by accident he said "mummy, what are you wearing?"

My DD sat on big toilet last night and fell in it bless her!

Mmm interesting! But how do you explain when you have a period and you are using a sanituary towel or tampon? DD also insists on following me into the bathroom at every occasion...

Ds thinks sanitary towels etc are nappies! He is also of the opinion that girls and ladies can't wee because they don't have willies!

see my post on the 6 yr old and periods thread today- mooncup questions!

That's one reason why I use a Mooncup, and lock myself into the bathroom to change it while they are napping or watching a video. Can't quite face explaining periods to them yet!

This thread is hillarious!! I made my hubby jump out of his skin when I burst into laughter at the very first post!! My DS hasn't noticed (well he hasn't commented yet) my pubes but he does go a little giggly when he sees me topless - he points at my boobs and actually says "boobies" I have no idea where he learnt this from!! Seriously...

I've been told by my 2 yo that I wear nappies too - was a little embarrased and really didn't know quite what to say so just left it. Although I have the feeling it may come back to haunt us as we are now trying to pursuade him to wear pants like mummy and daddy so we can potty train him.

my dd also thinks my sanitary pads are nappies. I will let it go for now, but as soon as she is old enough I will explain that periods are not the same as pooh. I think it is important to explain menstruation in a positive way (sorry if this sounds pious).