took dd into school late was i wrong?

[ledkr]

DD 8 has been on a go slow now since return to school. I am 21 wks pregnant and am working part time and the mornings are becoming worse and worse.I generally wake her about 7.15 with tea and biscuits (largely as i have that myself for ms)her unifrom is ready in her room and then i call down about 7.45 for her to get dressed and we have b fast at 8 then off to school at 8.30 then me to work 3 x a week. She has begun not dressing in any hurry or at all and then slowly eating b fast and just generally not hurrying. This morning she was worse than ever and didnt start geting dressed for 15 mins. So i decidedto jsu t leave her. She was 15 mins late and we walked into an empty playground and she had to sign in etc and was in tears.
I did mention to the teacher that she had been slow and i wanted her to experience being late but i now feel a bit iresponsible. Do you think i did the right thing. I am guessing i will know on Monday.

I would have done the same.

seems fair enough to me. An 8 yr old should be able to a) tell the time and b) get herself ready. If she's not prepared to listen to her mum about getting ready etc, then she'll be late.

I think you were right.

You did the right thing but I wouldn't make a habit of it in case she realises she can get more attention that way. Try and thing of other ways of getting ready more quickly.

*think not thing!

You were right. Well, as long as you warned her what would happen, you were. She'll not do it again!

don't feel guilty... its just a one off and she will get over it

at 8, she is old enough to learn from the experience and hopefully move on....

last term when I was fed up with mine not getting ready, I decided to change the order of doing things in the morning...

I started a new rule of shower - if not being stinky (I have one who is allergic to soap and water :)), dressed and bags packed BEFORE coming down for breakfast...

breakfast is only if there is enough time or else it is an apple on the way to school

It did work - mainly because it reduced the opportunity to play with the hamster, and generally mess around before being ready...

Have been a bit slack so far this term with DD as have focussed on getting older DS out on time for big school - I think I need to go back to it as it saved my sanity last term ;)

thanks. It will be interesting if it does work as maybe i wil have the answer to an age old problem.
I am scarily organised as was single Mum to 4 at one point and always have everything ready the night before so it should be a doddle.I did use a sticker chart but i cant help thinking that she just should be doing all this without flippin rewards etc.
I think when you say "late" they dont really know what it means to walk into an empty playground or a classfull of staring 8 yr olds.
That will learn her

I did this with DD1 (had arranged it with the class teacher in advance as we were both struggling with DD1 who took FOREVER to get dressed - her socks had to folded exactly right etc) - we sauntered into school and discovered a completely empty classroom. DD1 burst into tears, I gave her no sympathy whatsoever, she stopped taking quite so long to get dressed, both at home and school, and still remembers now 12 years later how awful she felt, entirely through her own actions.

grrr, just picked her up and she is as cocky as hell."IT WASNT THAT LATE"and she didnt get told off. I am playing it down for now and will see what happens Monday. I think she may have forgotten the no tv or pc when late for school rule. Which may have some impact in a few minutes as it is Friday
Failing that it will have to be starvation or corporal punishment by an actual corporal.lol