3yr dd clinging and screaming when I leave her at nursey

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Please can anyone give me their reassuring stories and tell me that it will all be ok in the!!!

DD was 3 in July and has just started nursery 5 p.m's a week - this week being her first one. She was fine on her two visits the week before. Monday she said 'dont leave memummy I need you!' which broke my heart. Tues we had a few tears. Wed we knocked for a friend and all went together and she was fine. Yesterday we did the same but she started crying as soon as we were outside and today she had been saying all morning she didnt want to go. We went round to the same friends for lunch but as soon as we arrived she was screaming and literally had to be prised off me today - I could hear her screamin goutside!

It's horrendous and I feel really guilty as I dont have to send her to nursery so it's me thats causing her all this distress.

please help m

Ds started Ante Pre last year and it homestly took most of the term for him to feel settled. The crying when I left stage only lasted a few days but the "I don't want to go" and clinging lasted a few weeks. It gets easier and you have to stay consistant.

I told him he was going ... no argument..give a cuddle and kiss and say I will be back toget him after school and leave .. no clinging, no looking back. There were days I was walkng away with tears in my eyes but he didn't see it and I wasn't keeping him home for my own hurt feelings. Most times the kids settle quite quickly once parents leave an if they are really upset the school will phone you.

I know it is hard but concentrate on the benefits to your lo and you.

THank you - I know she has a lovely time when Im not there , but the staff has said it does take about 20 mins for her to stop crying.

I just hope it doesnt go on for very long - I cried al the way home yesterday!!

:( it is hard. I hope things settle soon

One of mine went through the same thing when she started nursery. The staff were brilliant - they suggested to her that she should paint a special picture for me as she was crying for me and she could give it to me when I came to collect her. After that she went straight to painting every morning after the teacher and I had managed to loosen her grip on me. I had about 3 weeks worth of paintings on the wall before she settled.

It takes time. Be consistent and firm. It feels horrible, but it's the right thing to do.

I remember my mum having trouble with my sister when she started school with the same thing. In the end it got so bad my mum made her toy mouse. He was 'bravery mouse' and went with my sister to school everyday to look after her and she had to look after him.Don't know how but it worked.:)