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I'm such a novice at this high school thing. Please advise!

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fartmeistergeneral · 21/09/2010 16:11

My ds said to me when he came home from school that a boy in his class said he looked like a girl, ds ignored him. Then ds put his hand up to answer a question, got it wrong and the boy said he was an idiot. Ds said to him 'shut up chubby'. The boy said 'whaaat?' and ds repeated what he said. The boy didn't say anything else.

I didn't know how to deal with that. If he was to ignore the boy completely, does that make him a woos? Resorting to personal attacks isn't too clever either.

I just said, try to ignore him in future.

Eeek, please help!! Bound to happen time and time again and need good advice to pass on.

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fartmeistergeneral · 21/09/2010 16:34

bump before I head out...

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bruffin · 21/09/2010 16:47

Well hopefully this boy has seen your son has been prepared to stick up for himself and won't do it again.

fartmeistergeneral · 21/09/2010 18:19

well that's what I'm hoping but it's hard to know where to draw the line isn't it?

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oliviacrumble · 21/09/2010 19:46

Verbal comebacks can be a highly effective 'tool' when dealing with bullying or nasty remarks. It is not advisable to use insults like 'chubby' or whatever, as this can inflame the situation.

Phrases like 'real mature!', 'you can tell I'm really hurt!, I should tell the teacher but you're not worth it', etc, can be more useful.

I got a long list of 'comebacks' on a website called, I think, Bullystoppers.co.uk.

Hope this is of help for you and your DS. Incidentally, ignoring the comment can sometimes make things worse.

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