help, my 2 year old is embarassing me!!

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so my 2 and a half year old son is being so rude and strange around his grandparents. they live 5 mins away so they know him well but every time we see them he keeps saying 'dont see me' and being really rude. also when we are with friends with wee one the same age he gets all aggressive. i keep telling him dont talk that way as its not nice. I get mortified. Is all this deveopment or personality. anyone with similar

I think it's a mixture of both. Having said that it doesn't mean when he grows up he's going to be constantly rude and agressive. He'll probably just grow out of it. You say he's agressive, do you mean he hits or is it just his manner?

Both. You can turn a child full of character into a very strong and dependable person, in the same way you can turn a sweet and sensitive child into a spoiled selfish brat.

The trick is to decide what behaviour you should expect of your child and not let him do otherwise. Obviously, depending on what that is, it would be more difficult for a child than for another, but you have to persevere, and keep also in mind that what is difficult for other children may be relatively easy for your child, so don't put any labels on him that may pigeonhole him into a particular type of person.

Thanks so much for advice. Re hitting, no he doesnt hit its just his manner. I think alot of it is role play as he does it at home when he's playing by himself. its just to know how to deal with it when out and about

I have to say that if DS is being mean or rude while role playing, I see this as a perfect opportunity to correct the problem in private. If you take care of it at home, it will stop or diminish when you are out and about too.

I would say that at that age he may find it a bit confusing that it is ok at home but not while out, and visceversa. Some consistency will help.