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dd talking about knickers/nipples after 3 days nursery

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familyfun · 17/09/2010 14:25

dd is 3.2 and started nursery wed, settled after 10 mins and went happily yesterday and today.

she says she plays with the teacher and doesnt know the childrens names yet.

wed she said "i'll make you laugh, i'll show you my knickers". we never say the word knickers at home so i knew she had hard this somewhere else, i told her its rude to show pants in public, she said someone showed their pants to make people laugh and she then said a boy came out the toilet with his pants showing and everyone laughed and the teacher helped him redress so i thought nothibng more of it.

this morning she cuddled me and stroked my breast which i told her not to o as its private, she then did it again, i told her she mustnt touch private parts and mustnt let anyone touch her pivate parts either and she said she as trying to be funny.

she then said shall i put something up my skirt, i said like what and she said dirt so i told her not to be silly.

she then asked if nipples are private parts and i told her yes thay are.she said she was just asking.

me and dp are now panicking that she is suddenly talking in this way? is a child at nursery saying things to be funny and dd is copying? am i being silly and worrying over nothing. she seem happy to go to nursery today and is happy etc at home.

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Horton · 17/09/2010 14:38

Three year olds LOVE talking about bottoms, wees, poos, nipples, willies etc etc. It is normal, IMO, if rather wearing.

familyfun · 17/09/2010 14:42

is it normal? dd has asked about private parts before but this seems so sudden that we were worried something was wrong tbh.

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choufleur · 17/09/2010 14:44

Bums, wee, poo etc are really quite funny things for small children.

familyfun · 17/09/2010 14:46

if she is just trying out her new "funny" sayings that is fine, i will ignore, i was genuinely worrying something was wrong.
thanks for reassurnace Smile

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carriedababi · 17/09/2010 16:46

oh sound slike shes just learning about her body, theres probably a bit of a clownaround child that gets a laugh for showing bottom or whatever so the kids think it funny and copy.

sounds like shes doing great.

lolbaby · 17/09/2010 17:58

Oh, so glad i'm not alone! My little girl does this too!

familyfun · 17/09/2010 19:48

thanks all for the reassurance, dd hasnt said anything else rude since nursery so hopefully its nothing to worry about.
she has fallen down stairs she is so tired, cried cos a balloon popped and told me to "shut my mouth" Shock and is demanding things like get me a drink and seems to have forgotten all manners, but seems to love nursery. Hmm

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lolbaby · 17/09/2010 22:16

Hmm, my little one has her first proper day monday. She went for her play and stay session last wednesday and seemed to love it. But i'm worried she's going to pick up bad habits. But i suppose it can't be stopped. But if it's any comfort to you, she tells me i can't do this, or just recently is having major crying fits because she can't have another bag of crisps.
Crazy how they change from baby to ranting little madams! Hmm

Anenome · 18/09/2010 09:38

I had this too with my DD aged 6...it's the begining of outside influence. She said similar things to your child...about nickers and bottoms...then one day she began cmoplaining she was fat! She's like a walking bone...turns out three of the kids (who have very overweight Mms) had been discussing fat and how to avoid becoming this way....it was awful and I complained to the teacher....bums and bits is less damaging so don't worry.

familyfun · 20/09/2010 14:36

dd has forgotten all her rude sayings over the weekend, wonder what little gems she will learn today Wink

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drivingmisscrazy · 20/09/2010 14:55

20 month old has Blush habit of saying 'nipp-pull' at every opportunity...

ppeatfruit · 21/09/2010 10:56

lolbaby they are still babies just having problems dealing with the tiredness and having to behave all day IMO

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 11:42

I'm a bit confused - why is it worrying that she says knickers and talks about nipples?
Do you genuinely not let your child touch your chest???

CerealOffender · 21/09/2010 11:44

you sound a bit up tight. my dd is 6 and was fondly calling my boob her cushion yesterday.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 21/09/2010 11:48

Agree with the last two posters. DD who is now 9.4, still rolls around hysterically at the word bottom and loves to be given a wedgie. You do sound a tiny bit uptight about it all. DD was giving me a bap massage this morning when I got out of the shower. i do wish she would do it more gently though.

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 11:54

What about when nursery strip her off to put suncream on next summer and touch her nipples? That is not inappropriate surely? And why shouldn't she touch her own "private parts"?
Sorry, but this OP has made me feel a bit Sad

Horton · 21/09/2010 12:20

Why would the nursery strip her off to put sun cream on her?! Surely they just put it on the bits that are not covered by clothes?

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 13:08

Do you put your childrens' suncream on around their clothes? Surely it is much easier to take a t-shirt off, rub cream into the body and then put a t-shirt back on?? If children are playing their clothes don't stay in one place!

Egg · 21/09/2010 13:14

Why do you not use the word "knickers" at home? Am curious as to what else to call them. My DCs (age 4, 2 and 2) were discussing this morning that DS1 and DS2 have pants as they are boys, and DD has knickers as she is a girl.

DS1 (the 4yr old) sometimes strokes my boob. I have told him he shouldn't do it to someone else, but is ok to do it to me (occasionally!).

DD showed everyone her knickers a couple of months ago, as she was just potty training and v proud.

notso · 21/09/2010 13:22

clemetteattlee I doubt very much any school nursery would even put suncream on a child let alone strip them off to do it.

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 13:33

Funny that, because it is routine around here. DD had suncream applied by the staff at her private nursery and then the staff when she was in reception. Surely it is part of their duty of care - the OP's daughter is only 3 (and I know she hasn't asked about suncream, but it struck me as odd that she has told her that no-one can ever touch her nipples!!)

Egg · 21/09/2010 13:40

It is not really normal though clemetteattlee to actually touch the nipples even if you do take the t-shirt off to apply suncream. Unless the children are going round topless in the sun, then they don't need suncream anywhere near the nipples. I would think it a bit odd if any of my DCs said the staff at nursery had been touching their nipples in any way!

I usually do apply suncream to my own DC with their clothes off if I remember, as it is easier, but don't imagine the nurseries we use do it that way, they just do arms/neck/face etc.

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 13:45

My DS is almost 3 and the distance from his neck to his nipples is about a hand's width, so if I am rubbing with the flat of my hand he might get some on his nipples. Anyway, as I say, my point wasn't about suncream, it was about the wisdom of telling a three year old that people who touched their nipples were bad. Takes all sorts I suppose...

Horton · 21/09/2010 14:55

At DD's nursery, sun cream is always applied without removing clothes. I think this is pretty standard.

clemetteattlee · 21/09/2010 15:27

Fair enough, but it is not "rude" to do it by whipping off their T-shirts is it? That's the point I was making.