Maybe we need a support group for dealing with 4 yo

[warthog]

Because mine is being the biggest pain in the arse ever. how I have managed to restrain myself is beyond me.

ha ha i could of written this my 4 yo has the attitude of a teenager one minute and can be the sweetest angel the next, today has been a bad day roll on bed time !!

I so nearly started a thread today. My 4 year old has just started having the worst temper tantrums. I left softplay today with him screaming 'no, no, no' at the top of his lungs.

I am so in. He is driving me nuts - ten times worse than the two year old and newborn put together and he's in school all day .

He doesn't stop talking and repeating things and the attitude...

mine was really reasonable when she was 2. she can't speak in anything other than a moan or a whine now. no pleases and thankyous and lots of demands. it's painful because i don't think i really communicate with her anymore. i'm 9 weeks pg and just don't have the energy for this...

i really hope this phase doesn't last long!

So - that support group. I have my DS in tears and I am so sick of him.
All he does is cry as soon as things don't go his way. There are tears because he can't get his socks on (he doesn't try, just decided he can't do it), tears because his shoes don't feel right.

He talks over everyone, doesn't do anything I ask unless it gets to the point of me shouting.

I am worn out by it.

He has also started getting really scared of things. Can't get on the escalator anymore. Queued for ages to go on a bouncy castle yesterday and then as soon as he got on he screamed for me.

He just seems to be so emotional and I feel like I am geeing him along all the time. there is no bravery in him. No attempt to try anything and I am getting so fed up with it.
He seems to really need me and the more he does the more I feel myself pushing away (I know, I know) and then he gets more needy and crying and I get more angry and frustrated.

I know I need to help him get through this - but I am really struggling with it.

Help!!!!

can anyone help?
I feel like I am really failing him and I don't know what to do.

He cried going in to pre school today which he hasn't done for well over a year.

I don't know why he is so fearful and I don't know what my strategy should be to help him through it.

bloody hard.

i think he's really struggling with school and needs a lot of reassurance. maybe tone down what you're doing with him - read stories, do colouring, whatever quiet type things he likes doing. lots of cuddles.

basically he needs attention as he's feeling vulnerable.

that's what i think anyway...

hope it gets better soon.