'aggressive' behaviour first week in reception

[Willabywallaby]

I've been concerned about the behaviour of a boy in DS1's class he says is 'rough' with him. I told him to talk to the kind boys and avoid him.

Yesterday I mentioned it to his teacher to check if my advice was right. But unfortunately her response was that DS1 has been aggressive to some of the other children and she's had complaints from some of the other Mums.

I couldn't talk about it to her since DS1 was there so just said yes he can be and thank you for telling me.

I was really upset about this since it's a private school with lots of polished Mums who I feel aren't really my sort of people anyway.

I tried to talk to DS1 about it but couldn't find out what he was doing that was aggressive. He does get cross and lash out, but not necessarily physically.

We have reinforced his big boy chart and he's to decide himself if he's been kind and can go up it at the end of the day. He is an honest boy so I'm hoping that works.

I also said he would have to go and see the headteacher if it continued.

Anyway, should I talk to the teacher about it again? Or just leave it since it was my comment which caused her to bring it up?

I'm sure the teacher will raise it with you if she feels that it is causing problems that she cannot handle in the classroom.

The first week in reception is always a bit chaotic - lots of over-excited, over-tired children struggling to get to grips with new rules and new expectations.

The teacher will have her own techniques for calming and settling the children.

Be patient, give your DS time to settle. If you've not heard anything from the teacher by the end of term, then you could double-check that she is happy with your DS's behaviour as you've heard nothing further about there being any problems.

I checked the future events timetable and we do have parent teacher interviews (when did they drop the word evening?) just after half term so I assume that's the time to check.

I did speak to one of the other Mum's at drop off this morning and she's going to to ask her DS how things are going to see if he reports that my DS has been a hooligan.

It's all new to me too so thanks for the reassurance.

I would have a quiet chat with the teacher just to establish a relationship and get her on side early on. Always befriend the teachers. Always.

It's quite tricky to have quiet chat since she stands in the doorway of her classroom to allow the children in and out. Also DS is hovering and earwigging. I know he's no saint and he does get cross but he's not an aggressive child .

You have to arrange a quiet chat. Grab her am or pm and ask for one at her convenience, it's perfectly acceptable and normal.

So I picked him up from after school club and his class's TA does it on a Thursday evening so I talked to her. I feel more reassured he's not been labelled the hooligan yet. And they do a chat book with the parents and teacher can write in if they need to communicate. I think then it's also a way to arrange a quiet chat if needs be.

Good. Relax and enjoy the w/e!