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I need some advice on how to help my 8 year old DD. Please.

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dizzymac · 14/09/2010 13:07

My DD is my eldest and has always been very outgoing and although her confidence is easily shaken she is generally able to take whatever is thrown at her. Or at least she was until recently.

Over the summer break she has played out most of the time with a group of girls and boys around her own age but there have been general fallings out ( nothing out of the ordinary). Over this time she has been coming to me or dad al the time to sort these out, which I have tried to do by helping her deal with it herself or , when necessary, speaking nicely to other parents.

During the holidays she has also developed very bad hypochondria. Every pain is a problem and she has been finding it hard to get to sleep. We have dealt with this by giving her a pebble which she keeps with her to calm her when she is anxious and this is working so far.

At school she is beginning to think people are picking on her because she has not done all the things they have and she speaks differently as we are not from around here. There are other minor things too and they are getting to her.

In school her teacher informed me she has an attitude. This is the 1st time ever. She is usually a lovely, well behaved child and I am worried that she may be doing this to prove she is one of the "gang".

She just seems to be lacking all her glow and sparkle and I don't know what to do to help. ( crying now!)
thanks for reading al this. Does anyone have any ideas as to how we can get our girl back. I'm worried she's lost all her confidence and is just buckling under everything.

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dizzymac · 14/09/2010 13:38

I know its long but really need some advice on what to do.

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FingonTheValiant · 14/09/2010 16:18

I'm afraid I really don't know what to suggest, but bumping for you. Hope someone else can help.

mamateur · 14/09/2010 16:26

We've been recommended this book by a youth worker, having just taken in DN who is low on self-esteem. It's always self-esteem at the end of the day, isn't it?

I haven't actually got it in my hands yet, but it looks quite practical and the yw who recommended it is highly respected in his field, so it might be worth checking out.

Good luck, you sounds very understanding parents so hopefully deep-down she has enough reserves of strength to fight the peer pressure.

dizzymac · 14/09/2010 16:48

Thank you. You are very kind. I'll get that and have a look at it. It sounds hopeful.

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mamateur · 14/09/2010 18:19

I'll be interested to know what you think! I've bought lots of books for 'cracking' DN. I have no idea what's going on in his head - the only time I see any real joy coming out of him him is when he plays with DS, his new little brother. The rest of the time he puts up such a front. Simple pleasures are always good - cycling two-abreast, playing with animals, cooking, popcorn and a film.

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