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DS (3) is being soooo difficult :(

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TheBountyMuncher · 12/09/2010 14:43

I'm at my wits end, I really really I am.
He's just weed in my display cabinet.

He can't just talk to me, everything he says has to be shouted.
If he wants something doing he'll shout " Help! Help! Help" at max volume until someone comes (I tried ignoring him once for 90(!) minutes, but unfortunately I gave in first, people were walking past and looking in Blush)
He shouts over me if I stop to chat with anyone.
He can't just walk anywhere, got to run, he's always bumping his head on the doorframes because there is just not room for fast running in the house.

He wakes every 3 hours!

I'm exhausted.
I want to run away Sad

His dad is working abroad and was due back this month but will now be another month, so no time off from him. He's at nursery, but the walk home with him is traumatic in itself!
(He was acting like this before XH went, just getting worse, or I'm getting less patient)

What do I do?

I'm a crap mum aren't I? Sad

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Suzyinwonderland · 12/09/2010 19:05

Definitely not. You're in a crap situation!

I have a little girl exactly the same. I feel like I just can't cope sometimes. Mine will also repeat HELP!! and it drives me insane. She's also rather violent with me and others. Recently starting to at pre school too. It's awful, as I know her name is mud to the other mums.

How is yours at nursery?

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TheBountyMuncher · 12/09/2010 21:26

Thankyou Smile
I'm sorry you're in the same situation.

He's just changed nursery, so at the moment is just doing his shouty thing, I hope he leaves it at that. He was irritating/violent to other children at his last one (crafty elbows, running and barging past so as to knock them over) awful having to slink in at home time isn't it?

Hope things improve for all of us soon- can only get better?

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Suzyinwonderland · 13/09/2010 12:02

Just about to pick DD up from pre school and my heart is pounding with nerves. Can't believe how stressed out I am before I even get there. Fingers crossed ey. Wink

How do you deal with him when he's violent?
It doesn't seem to make a difference what I do with DD, she's like a dog with a bone.

shootfromthehip · 13/09/2010 12:15

My DS isn't violent but is relentless at the moment- he too won't walk when he can run and is constantly ignoring advise about climbing things. As a result he has been to the docs and A and E 3 times in the past three weeks with head injuries and a split open toe. He had a burst lip on Tuesday, a set of skinned knees on Wed and a bumped head on Thurs- this is all after another trip to A and E on Sunday.

He's argumentative and stubborn and just, well, dangerous. He's driving me nuts as I can never stand still in the street to chat to anyone as he's always off and ignores instructions to stop/ come here etc. He's like a puppy- too much energy and not enough sense.

He has only really become problematic since returning to Nursery in Aug but it's wearing me out. Glad to hear that I'm not alone.

Suzyinwonderland · 13/09/2010 12:21

Definitely not alone. Although it does feel like it most of the time doesn't it. :)

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TheBountyMuncher · 15/09/2010 18:30

Glad also that I'm not alone. (and yep, it does feel like it though!)

It's so lonely isn't it? I avoid stopping for chats now because I'm so mortified.
I'm the one dashing past in a hurry to nowhere

DS is like a dog with a bone when he's having one of his moods too (very accurate description Suzy!) Sometimes I just want to have a massive meltdown myself!
Nothing works. I reckon even SuperNanny would have sleepless nights over him. Grin

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Campaspe · 15/09/2010 19:11

You have my sympathies; I think some 3 year olds can be really difficult. My DD is relentless in her demand to be entertained (I know I've made a rod for my own back). Have you tried discussing your concerns with your HV or even your GP? Sometimes a relief just to chat to someone outside the situation and get their point of view.

notnowbernard · 15/09/2010 19:13

I think 3 is the hardest age

(Mind you, my oldest is only 6!)

But 3 is a bugger

mummywizz · 15/09/2010 19:52

My son is 3 and is a total 'livewire', definately the most difficult stage so far and am relieved to see i'm not alone as all the 3 yr olds I see (at nursery pickup etc) seem to be really well behaved and quiet

My son likes running around screaming at the top of his voice and when we tell him to be quiet he just laughs, he doesn't take discipline seriously at all (well, from me anyway) he also pushes, shoves and hits other children but have been told this is down to frustration/speech delay but other than that he is adorable and will grow out of it eventually. My husband says he's just got to get rid of his 'boy beans' before he can settle and do something quietly

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