Putting kids in the same room, advice please.

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DD is 3.7yo DS is 12mo, DS still wakes once at night for a feed which will no doubt drop soon. DD sleeps very badly in her room on her own, if someone is in her room with her she sleeps well.

So do I put a boy and a girl in the same room, is that going to turn into a problem? Do kids in the same room help each other sleep or do they make each other worse?

Tell me your experience please?

Anyone?

Mine were a bit older, 2.6 and 4.6, but my DS was definitely comforted by having his brother in his room. Before they shared he was getting quite anxious in bed at night and would need lots of reassuring checking etc. This has completely disappeared now, and it's lovely to hear them chatting.

I would say, give it a go. You can always put them back in separate rooms if it doesn't work out. Even if DS is still waking in the night, it is AMAZING what siblings will sleep through

I have 2 DSs (almost the same age as yours, actually), and they have shared a room since DS2 was 6 months old. Generally what has developed is that both DSs will sleep through any whingy crying (eg, I've lost my blanket and am cold, please save me!!! cries) and DS1 usually sleeps through when DS2 is unwell and wakes up in distress (or if he wakes up he looks over bleary eyed, and dives back under his duvet to block out the noise!).

If they are not really sleepy before bedtime they can be a bit of a nightmare getting to sleep as they bounce off each other - BUT, it is really lovely to see them interacting so nicely, even if they are being a bit naughty. This has settled down in the last 6 months and usually only happens if they have had extra naps because they've fallen asleep in the car on the way home from somewhere and so aren't really ready for bed at bedtime (DS1 no longer naps during the day).

They also 'chat' nicely in the morning sometimes, with DS1 making lots of cute sounds that DS2 can also make/copy, with both of them giggling away. They can do this for about 1/2 hour sometimes before either DS2 gets distressed or DS1 comes looking for me.

If DS2 wakes up first and a little bit earlier than standard I can usually get to him before he gets too distressed and so he doesn't wake up DS1. But I do get a bit ignored when I get him out of his cot because he twists himself into a pretzel to be able to see what DS1 is doing, and if he's still asleep THEN he turns around to greet me and give me a hug.

On the occasions when DS2 has been very ill then I have noticed DS1 is a bit grumpier during the day so I assume his sleep has been disturbed even though he hasn't woken up properly that I could see.

I love the relationship they have developed. DS1 is so very sweet to DS2 and will give him extra toys (frequently his own) if DS2 is a bit upset.

Thanks, I think I'm going to move them in together. I asked DD and she said she'd love to, so hopefully it'll work out.