22 mo DS2 seems to like everyone else more than me :-(

[Ceebee74]

DS2 has never been an affectionate boy but it seems even worse now and he appears to want anyone else other than me

An example was when I picked him up from nursery today and he was all over one of the staff and kept going over to give him a hug etc and yet he never comes over and gives me a hug. Even when I picked him up, he was straining to get away to the nursery nurse.

I am paranoid that, as DS1 is so full-on and is extremely affectionate and always wants to be sat on my knee etc that DS2 has realised this somewhere down the line (even though I always offer for him to sit there etc and show them equal affection) and thinks I don't love him.

I know this is a bit rambling but I am quite pragmatic most of the time but this has upset me and I feel so guilty that maybe he thinks I don't love him.

Of course he knows you love him! That's why he doesn't need to show you affection, because he's so secure in your love for him!!

Sounds backwards, I know. But that's how children think!

Tee thank you for your reassurance - can see what you mean but it makes me so when he says 'no' to me all the time!

ceebee I have the opposite problem, and believe me, the grass is always greener. I'm the only one my son wants 99% of the time. I actually said to my husband the other night 'I feel like he's sucking me dry!'

He doesn't always get me, but its always me he wants!

Tee lol, I do have one of each (DS1 is quite clingy to me and will almost always choose me over DH when it comes to cuddles etc etc) so I do appreciate the other side of it....just wish there was somewhere in the middle for both of them