why isnt my ds happy? when is he going to grow out of this? very stressed mum!

[michelle89]

my ds is 34weeks old, and he seems to prefer everyone else but me! or at least thats how it feels.
my dh works, everytime hes with dh hes good, but as soon as dh goes to work ds starts screaming, no matter what i do, i feed him every 2 n half hours, i play with him. i no its a tantrum, but i dnt no why! i leave the room and he calms down a little but as soon as i enter he starts again.
i cant leave him that long now because hes sittin up straight in his bouncer and if i dnt trap the bar under the sofa it topples over, he cant sit up fully on his own yet, he sits up but flops backwords occationally.

like 2day, dh said ds has been good in the morning, as soon as he left he started crying and screaming and hasnt stopped in 4hours, i feed him and he plays up by knocking the bowl out my hand.
i dont no what to do anymore because i feel like he doesnt love me. i feel really drained of energy and depressed. i thought that it was just a phase but hes been doin it for about 6months now :(
help!!

oh poor you.you sound so weary and worn down.tbh at 34 weeks baby isnt that manipulative or purposeful,but i appreciate you at end of tether

if your mood or mental state are suffering do tell hv or gp.dont suffer alone

cant someone give you a break whilst you have wee treat eg haircut,cinema,lunch

My DD sometimes gets very angry with me when she has been with my DH or her grandparents for a bit. I think it's because she has been trying so hard for them she is worn out. Does your DH look after your DS for a bit every morning then you get him back and he is difficult? It could be because he is tired after an exciting few hours.
How much daytime sleep does he get? And what sort of games do you play and DH with him?

Not that I'm an expert, my DD is going through a phase where she's flipping horrible with everyone at the moment as she is trying to crawl and cannot get her head round it. She is 9 months which I think is 36 weeks. I don't know what to do - am also at end of tether!

PS - he DOES love you, promise.

He will grow out of this.

It may seem, right now, that he hates you and he will never grow out of it, but I promise you, he will. He doesn't hate you at all.

It could be that he's picking up on your discomfort - you're worrying that he'll cry for you so you're tense, he feels that you're tense which makes him uncomfortable so he cries...

Please talk to your HV about this, if you feel that you can - she will probably have loads of advice and reassurance.

I bet loads of mums have been in a similar position, I know I was with dd2... dp used to give her to me when we were in public just so that everyone else could hear her scream and cry and as soon as he took her back she stopped and smiled at him. She did, however, grow out of it as yours will too

Exactly the same situation here (if its any consolation?) but its the other way around. DS screams when his dad puts him to bed but I'm flavour of the month. We are powering through. DH is doing all night time routines and spending as much time as possible with DS. We will crack him or he'll grow out of it.

But you are definitely not alone. Keep your chin up.

My dd can be like this and as soon as dp walks through the door all smiles for bath and bedtime. Whereas for me all afternoon, crying, whinging, wanting to be picked up, wanting ALL the attention, doesnt like me giving her brother any, and when i'm making the dinner.....NIGHTMARE!!

I actually try and get out with the kids when she's like this, park or just to my parents as its hard work. Keep with it, it will get better.