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WHAT CAN I DO??!!

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amy2310 · 01/09/2005 15:30

I have completely lost my mind I haven't got a clue what to do any more. DD is 21months and EVERY single morning with out fail I go in and get her and she has rubbed poo everywhere. Its over the walls, her bed, the carpet, in her hair and everywhere!! I have tried everything (I think) baby grows on backwards, leaving the door open so she comes in to us, which just gives her more walls and floor to decorate! I suffer from post natal depression any way and its getting to the stage where I wake up with her in the morning and dread going in to her!! (Does that make me sound awful?) Please help me or someone please let me know that I am not on my own!!
Im not sure if your thinking it but I do get up to her as soon as I hear her I never leave her

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Chandra · 01/09/2005 15:32

Can she remove pull-up nappies, if she can't go for it.

Otherwise you may try to wake before her and take her to the toilet/change her before she gets into action.

Nixz · 01/09/2005 15:36

what about a pair of pj's - sew buttons or a zip on the bottoms and attach to the top!
I dont know, just a thought! Sorry if im not much help!

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amy2310 · 01/09/2005 15:43

I have tried PJ's and yea she can get Pull ups off. I cant wake her because she does it in the morning some time my husband has tried going in to her when he goes to work and she is clean then ahhhhhh its so annoying!!

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saadia · 01/09/2005 15:47

what an utter nightmare, this sounds awful.

I'm not sure if this is possible, but could you adjust the time at which she poos - is it normally once at night?. Perhaps if you give her a load of grapes in the afternoon she might poo before she goes to sleep.

Or maybe she could go shopping with you and choose a new nightsuit and you could drill it into her that she has to keep this clean. Or buy new bedding and use the same tactic - although I know 21mths is maybe too young to understand this.

Will keep thinking - really feel for you. This would depress me too every morning.

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amy2310 · 01/09/2005 15:56

She must be an ab normal child! She doesn't poo at a regular time. Ive tried everything I really have. I think she is still a bit young for the keeping clean idea but I really do appreciate the sudgestion. I dont know anyone else who has been through this before so that makes it harder!! She is fantastic with Potty training tho!! We are doing really well with it she refuses to wear a nappy when we are in the house.

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MoggyMummy · 01/09/2005 16:05

I went through a similar thing with my DS around that age. The only thing that worked was those all in one Pyjams (with feet) that do up at the back. Try the nappy with a pair of knickers on too.

She sounds like a very clever little girl.

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amy2310 · 01/09/2005 16:13

Clever erm.... I cant say what I would call her!! As I said before I have tried the baby grow on backwards thing its just doesn't work. This is why I am screaming out for so much help!!

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Spoo · 01/09/2005 17:08

What about a Gro bag? Do they do them in that size. I imagine it would be very hard to get your hand inside the bag!

babaworshipper · 01/09/2005 17:45

what about a cloth nappy wrap with poppers, motherease air flow ? or a button up nappy she can do them to fasten at the bacK?

Roobie · 01/09/2005 17:49

They do Grobags up to 36 months - my dd was in one until she was well over 2 and then she started taking herself out of it .... could be worth a try.

Sugarmag · 01/09/2005 22:51

It does not make you sound awful - I"M sure I couldn't face that every morning either. If you've tried everything in the way of different pajamas, nappies etc maybe go a whole different route. She's probably not to young to understand a bit of simple reward and punishment. I'm not talking star charts or anything - at 21 monhts waiting to gain stars for a reward at some point in the future is not much good. But they do understand the here and now. How about something along the lines of - if she wakes up clean she can have an immediate reward - like, I don't know a piece of chocolate as soon as she gets up ( shock, horror). Sounds extreme but you sound desperate - I know I would be. And maybe again a simple punishment for making a mess - like taking away a favourite toy for the day.

yawningmonster · 02/09/2005 03:13

dungarees again put on back to front and no domes on legs, if she can get those off then I think you are just gonna have to ride it out! have seen dungarees succeed with another vary determined toddler though.

katymac · 02/09/2005 07:48

And you could nappy pin the dungaree straps

If she is clean when DH goes in - why doesn't he put her in your bed.

The novelty might make her think twice before making a mess?

anniebear · 02/09/2005 21:09

you do not sound awful

My dd has special needs and has just turned 4, when she poohs in the morning, if she does it before I get to her, she can put her hands down her nappy and have it all over her hands. Has been on her face and mouth before now.

I hate it. I could cry sometimes as we get ready to go out and she does that. Really gets me down.

No help at all sorry!! but wanted you to know you are not awful. And if you are already feeling low, it will seem 100 times worse anyway

LittleBeck · 03/09/2005 10:00

I have a two and a half year old who does this. He does it in the day too, if he gets a chance to get to his poo before I do.

My second son did it too - poo kneecaps, we used to call it.

It's a nightmare that ended on it's own. We used to tell him off for it and dress him in a popper-up vest as well as the backwards baby gro. It didn't always work, but sometimes it slowed him down.

We have become very sensitive to the smell of poo and race in at the slightest whiff - although this is usually too late.

As your dd seems to do this at a relatively consistent time in the morning, I would suggest setting your alarm a bit earlier and then racing in to see if you can intercept her.

Let me know if you find any good solutions.

NannyL · 03/09/2005 10:36

my advice.... put nappy on then duvk take it on....
then a babygrow on....

AND make her sleep in a grobag!
hopefully that combination will work!

KiwiKate · 03/09/2005 11:53

There was another thread on this topic about 6 weeks ago - and there was a lot of helpful advice on it. You'll need to do an archive search.

One suggestion was to get the child to help clean up the mess - this seemed to work for some, as the child then realised the consequences of making such a mess.

Apparently it is not an uncommon problem. If it persists get some professional advice as there are strategies that you can use to overcome it.

TinyGang · 03/09/2005 12:13

God, sympathies with this one. Our twins went through a mercifully brief stage of this. It's horrible, but they only do it because they're so curious about anything and everything.

Not that that is any consolation to the poor soul clearing it all up My ds even did a no2 in his wellie boot (how, I'll never know!) and we didn't know until he put it on!

There are some good suggestions here; I'll just add mine but it's a bit un-pc. It's not ideal I know, but we prevented them from taking their nappies off by taping up the nightime nappy with masking tape. Make the ending at the back rather than the front and they can't get it off. Mind you, neither can you very easily, but it worked for us.

loupylou · 03/09/2005 21:43

Have you tried putting a swimsuit on over her nappy, obviously you need to pick one that has the shoulder straps close together, but i have known this work for some children. Or, an all in one pyjama suit backwards.

bambi06 · 03/09/2005 21:48

what about nappy on backwards with tape around it , i`ve used sellotape as other tapes can easily be peeled off..have fun!!!

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