Refusing help!

[LauLau15]

Can anyone offer some advice on why my DS whose 2 yrs and 4 mnths refuses help or attention when he hurts himself. For eg, if he falls over and i go to help him, he gets angry with me and then will throw a mini tantrum, i have since learnt to now ignore and he then comes to me to kiss whatever he hurt better. But why would he initally refuse my assistance??
He has also started hitting me in the face if i say he cant do something, i tell him no firmly but cannot always put him in time out as for example today i was strapping him in the car when he did hit me. i told him off and then ignored him, i'm getting abit tired of ignoring him now though LOL. He's exhausting me at times and i dont always feel happy to be around him if all he wants to do is hit me and hurt me!

I have a little girl of 3.8 and she does the same. The violence at the moment but she does the tantrum when she hurts herself thing too. I think they do it because they are genuinely angry with us and believe that it's our job to protect them no matter what. I remember being quite similar myself when I was little.

I understand how exhausting it is. Just hang in there. I'm sure the violence will stop soon or at least get better. :)

My nearly two year old ds is just like this, will have a tantrum if you try to make him better. I also have a four year old ds who didn't do this, so I think it's just a personality thing.

As for the violence, both my boys have gone through this. Four year old much, much better now, rarely hits me, whereas the two year old is at the peak! Hits me/daddy/granny etc when tired, angry, told he can't have something. To be honest, I don't make a big deal about it with him because I know it does pass and is just an age thing. I used to stress out big time with ds1 and looking back I can see it was nothing! Just tell him it's not nice to hurt mummy and try to distract.

thanks for advice guys, its always nice to know other people had the same problems and that my ds is not the devil! lol