2 year old keeps biting - so ashamed

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What do I do? He bit my friend's little boy today and drew blood. I put him in the corner for 2 minutes, talked it through with him and took him over to say sorry. And he just laughed. I could have died of shame. We left straight away. My friend was ok about it. He learnt nothing, as he bit his sister just before bed.

He's been doing it for about 4 months. He bit one friend's little boy and drew blood through a vest, top and cardi! The friend although seemingly ok at the time has ignored my emails since .

Am I destined to stay at home and never mix with other children for the next 2 or 3 years? Will I have a big bully of a boy forever? I just don't know what to do.

I've been there not with biting but with hitting and pushing.

The extra problem I had is that my DS was not talking so it was made more difficult to explain.

If you son has good understanding there is a good book called Teeth are not for biting. We've got Hands are not for hitting. You might get it cheaper elsewhere.

here

Don't give up going out it will get better just an unfortunate thing some children go through. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Friends who can't forgive were never friends anyway. :)

It's very hard, we had a biter with DD1 although it wasn't quite to the blood-drawing level. It will pass but a firm no and then as little attention as possible (even though it's very hard) - he will be enjoying the excitement that his biting causes.
Poor you :( but honestly it will pass.

Yes it will pass but while it's current you need to be right behind him (or in front of him) in public.DD went through a biting and hair pulling stage I made sure she couldn't grab/bite etc.

My ds1 went through this! It was hell at the time, and I did lose a couple of friends over it, but if someone is that sensitive that they can't forgive a two year old biting, they are not worth worrying about. When ds1 was between 18 months to 3 he seemed like the most aggressive toddler I had ever come across, and I did hide myself away a bit. He is now 4 and I wouldn't even class him as one of the boisterous boys! It does change and it is normal, horrible and embarrasing, but normal! Just watch him like a hawk and know it will pass. One day you will be able to drink tea and chat without having a heart attack!

I had a friend whose little boy was a biter and I wouldn't have dreamed of falling out with her over it.
She was mortified and so apologetic that I felt really sorry for her. FWIW it did pass after a little while, he even used to bite her when she wasn't looking and clamp on like a little terrier!!

I was obviously wary of him when my (younger) DCs were there but my friend and I talked about it openly. If your friends are going to fall out with you over it then that's really sad.

He did grow out of it very quickly and is now a lovely sweet 4 year old! It only lasted about a month so hang in there!

I have no idea why you should feel ashamed ! It is a very normal phase for kids that age, though obviously unpleasant. As the others said just watch him like a hawk. It will stop.

Aw mate, I'm so sorry! My aunt always said that children who bite were 'bad children' and it was a really bad sign - then she had a baby who was a 'biter' herself! She soon changed her mind!

My best friend at school when I was a toddler bit me several times! She was a little horror as a toddler but loads of my favourite people in the world were right little buggers as toddlers and now they're the most sociable and intelligent of all my friends today. My best friend (who used to bite me) is still my best friend now, 30 years later - but she doesn't bite me anymore! Honest!

Chin up mate! It'll be ok, toddlers are hard work. We've all been there (or somewhere similar!) and you'll work it out. :)

Thank you thank you all. Going to get that book as he does have a good understanding and he also loves books.

I'm not sure why he does it, cos he often does it to kids he really likes. But I will watch him like a hawk and give as little attention as I can (yes, he enjoys the excitement a bit)

Thanks mumsnetters, it made me feel so much better xx