Good book on discipline for toddlers?

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Where do I get started wise Mumsnetters? DD is 13m and I see a glimpse of toddlerness, so time for DH and I to talk about what we're going to do - so we start off consistent.

My image of myself :) is as a fairly strict parent, clear boundaries and a set routine. Parents are ultimately in charge, not her. But I want to listen to her and respect her as well as one of the family.

Oh, and no smacking.......

What do you recommend?

Thanks!

toddler taming :)

tamed my toddlers anyway.

Just watch the rope trick, ds contemplated climbing out the window

Definitely Toddler Taming, basic common sense and very funny as well.

The only parenting book I ever recommend, and one which has been very useful to me is How to Talk.

I've just ordered Toddler Taming after posting a message on facebook about my toddlers tantrums and was recommended it by a few people

"Discipline the Brazelton Way" by Brazelton available on amazon etc

Great, thanks. I'l check these ones out

i found this book amazing and use it all the time not just on my toddler but also on my 9 year old and husband...

www.amazon.co.uk/Happiest-Toddler-Block-Cooperative-Four-year-old/dp/0553384422/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1283457081&sr=1-1

Seconding the Happiest Toddler on the Block. Some of it seems OTT, but the basic ideas are very useful. It says a lot of it is about the way you communicate - has to be in a way that toddlers understand.

And above all, never expect them to understand something when they're angry, because the left part of their brain (which processes language) will have shut down. (This is why it's also useful for adults!).

also, The Happiest Toddler on the Block is particularly good for early toddlerhood.

Is Happiest Toddler good for a 17month old? If so I'm sold! HAve got How to Talk and find it really interesting but most of it is not really applicable yet.

yes happiest toddler would be good for 17 month old - the book says it's for age 1 to 4, but as i mentioned i use some of the techniques on other members of the family too.

I wouldn't think that any of them are particularly useful for a 13 month old; although i understand you want to be consistent, really their understanding is so different at a year and at two years. Mine is 22 months, and at a year she understood things like Do Not Go Near The Open Fire (big scary voice) and Mummy Gets Cross When You Bite, but nothing major. At her current age, she understands more complex things: I know you want to keep painting, but we need to pack up and have dinner now, and if you do that nicely we will have time for a Very Exciting Bubble Bath afterwards.

So I suppose I'm just saying, don't worry too much about consistency just yet - inconsistency is a problem from day to day, but it doesn't really matter if you introduce something at 18 months that wasn't the deal at 14.

Try Incredible years by Carolyn Webster-Stratton. Its for 2-8 yrs but is very good at the positive stuff as well as the discipline. I find some of the books focus too much on what you don't want to kids to do (a la supernanny)rather than this book which is more about, what you do want them to do.

Thank you will have a look on amazon for Happiest Toddler and also Incredible Years, unfortunately our local libary which is brilliant for children's books, novels etc is next to useless on parenting books.

I was going to say Toddler taming too but I was beaten to it!

It's a shame about your local library, maybe you can have a word with the head librarian (do they still call them that?). If they know there is public demand for these books perhaps they'll bear that in mind the next time they order some books in.

Don't get me wrong, the library is great, really child friendly and a great choice of books but the parenting section is monopolised by Gina Ford! Perhaps I should ask them but am ususally too busy trying to prevent DS from pulling all the books off the shelves!

Can't you order books. Herts libraries have a website and we can order books online now.

No idea! Will have a look