please help me before I kill her

[littlemisslost]

Obviously m not going to kill my dd or anyone else before anyone gets concerned ubt i am my wits end with my daughter, my husband is also. She is starting year 2 tomorrow she is 6 and we both adore her BUT her behaviour is disgusting! I am actually ashamed of her an out of ideas and energy as to what to do with her, bedtimes is one of the worst as she just gets up and gets up and demands one thing after another and we (or whoever is home at the time) get so exhausted ourselves its just a nightmare. She is so cheeky and seems so angry inside, i just dont understand it. Tonight she was so naughty I ended up taking things out of her room which has just been decorated and she was so upset she was screaing at me " I hate you", " I hate my life" kicking me and then I held the door shut and she was kicking the door, its so embarrasing I cant even face my neighbours because it feels like everyday is just a screaming battle. She back chats me and pulls faces at me and runs away from me when I am trying to get her ready for anything, I am dreading another school report saying how 'challenging ' she is, its so embarrasing
why is she so unhappy

what does she say when you ask her why she is so angry and rude and shouty?

I find that as soon as I let my boys 'get away' with challenging and rude behaviour, they start to take advantage of me and become worse so I started boot camp again tonight!

They are both exhausted from late nights at a sleepover but tonight we had dinner at 5pm, shower at 6pm and bed started at 7pm so if they did kick off it was earlier and I could guarantee they would be asleep by 8pm.

No talking to them when they get up
Threats to take things away if they faff around

Have you tried sticker charts and rewards for her nice behaviour? Are school concerned?

Oh I sympathise.

Is she like this all the time or does it just feel like it?

My DD (about to go into year 1, almost 6) does all of the things that you describe. She is defiant and bratty, argumentative and soooooooo frustrating.

She is also lovely and cute and adorable at times but with the long hols finally dragging to an end this part of her personality seems to be a little lost.

I think what I am trying to say is a lot of what you are describing is typical 6 year old boundary pushing.

school dont say theyre concerned they said at end of year one report that she needs to be more caring towards others and concentrate, and when I asked the teavcher is her behaviour was really bad she said she was " challenging" but thehy have worse.

She can be delightful, she can sit down and watch a film, bake some cakes, play a game read a book etc and so does have ability to concentrate and see things through but she just seems to be so cheeky and uncoopoerative and is late for school fairly often simply because she will not do anything I as from getting up, eating her breakfast, having a wash etc everything feels like a battles, she says its because she has nobody to play with and is lonely and were always working or busy but we do try our best to make sure she has friends round or goes places and doesnt spend all her time in front of dvd's, we decorated her room beautifully just 2 weeks ago in an attempt to make her feel special and more grown up and I just feel like were getting nowhere

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She seems to have a negative personality. Have you tried reverse psychology with her? it's easier when she's on holiday; play make believe games, she acts being an animal or baby or whatever ,you join in of course.

Also it could be food intolerance; try substituting wheat in her diet with rice, ryvitas etc. tell her why. Involve her fully with decisions that affect her.