Help help help. My youngest DD is nearly 6 and has incredibly volcanic tantrums over the least little thing. I have been told that its a ohase (its been going on for about 3 years now). She will lose it the minute the NO word is said or she is told that she has to do soemthing (bath or bed or brush hair etc).
Its quite extreme at times, she has taken to throwing whatever is at hand, clothes, shoes, hairbrush etc. An example is she was asked to wash her hair in the bath and she refused, it turned into a wrestling match in the bath with water everywhere. Then it escelated when trying to bruch her hair. DH threatened to do it(as he is not gentle) so she screams for me to do it, then refuses when dad stops trying to brush it. This episode ended with me and DH shouting at each other and oldest DD 10y crying. At school she is very well behaved.
She is also still wetting herself regularly. She will use the toilet as and when it suits her. If she is out playing she will only come in when she has already wet herself. Somedays she is dry all day, then the next she will wet twice.
DH and i are at our wits end. We love her dearly but she is so much hard work. We need some advice on the best way to tackle these issues.
We have tried the "your a big girl now" talk has not worked, she justs shrugs that off.
and have tried reward charts and praise, that worked for a while but now she is unconcerned. can anyone advise. Thanks