Six year old boy

[ineedamiracle]

Am I completely crazy in thinking that it's normal for a six year old boy to appear never to listen...he has to be told a million times to do anything before doing it. My new partner of six months thinks that my boy is the worst person on the planet and says that other children listen to instructions immediately. My boy is amazing and a pleasure to be around, but anyone would think he's the spawn of the devil. Help.

My almost six year old sometimes has to be told several times to do something - he gets easily distracted. My 4 year old DS is the same too.
I often give them a time limit when I ask them to do something - like brushing teeth, getting dressed etc - using an egg timer.
Or if its something that can be done really quick (like put your shoes away) i just countdown from 10 to 1 for example. It works every time for my two.

Sorry forgot to add - it is normal. I don't know any children who follow instructions immediately all the time.

I have a 57 year old partner who never listens sounds normal to me.

But seriously, has your new partner ever had kids? Because your DS sounds completely normal to me. He's six, he's at home so he's relaxed and he's perhaps not taking any notice of your new man because he doesn't see him as "family" yet, he can hear the disapproval in your partner's voice.

Kids do things because they want to please you. Maybe your son doesn't yet want to please your new partner because he knows he doesn't like him. It's probably not what you want to hear but anyone who criticised my son to that extent would get their marching orders before six months. If he wants to stay around he needs to work at getting to know your little boy and seeing all the good things about him.

Sounds normal to me. I once read that because of the way that the ears grow, there are actually some periods of childhood where the bones of the inner ear are not touching all the bits that they should and therefore some periods where children really cannot properly hear. I tell myself this when 7 year old ds is ignoring me.

If he was my new partner he would pretty soon be my ex partner if he thought my son was the worst person on the planet.

He sounds perfectly normal I suppose your partner always listens to everything you say?

Have YOU got any concerns about his hearing, or do you think it's more about his listening skills?

My partner is widdowed and has a ten year old son. There is nothing wrong with the six year old's hearing and I think e is a completely normal little boy who is dealing with alot. Right now, this minute he is trying to force me to agree by text that my child has a problem. Oh god...I am doomed :(

There is a big difference between 6 and 10 - and we are programmed to forget what our own children were like in previous stages. He is expecting your 6 year old to be the same as his own 10 year old.

You have to be on your child's side here.

I have an 8 year old boy who never listens....

A grown man who says that a child, a six year old, the six year old son of his new partner is the worst person on this planet, just described himself.

I feel really sorry for your little boy reading this. He sounds like a totally normal six year old to me.

I have an 8 year old and a 5 year old. They both sound like your son! And they are also amazing and a pleasure to be with.

Tell your man HE has a problem if he cant accept your son.

You are not going to get a different answer to the ones you have already had on your thread in the Relationship section.

Protect your child. Please.

dump the partner. I can understand him being frustrated (I have a 5 year old dd who never listens) but he is expressing it in a seriously strange way 'worst person on the planet' your partner needs to grow up.

Tactics we use - egg timer, counting down from 3, turning off tv if that appears to be 'getting in the way' of hearing

"we are programmed to forget what our own children were like in previous stages" that is so true.

Your Ds sunds pretty much like my very own specimen of a 6yo.