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please help me with 6yr old ds...we are struggling

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onanightlikethis · 23/08/2010 22:45

i have 2 ds, one 6, just about to go into yr 2, and one nearly 5, starting reception.
the older one is having a bad time at the minuite...constantly winding his brother up, verbal and physical abuse to his brother, and sometimes us. everything is boring, he is constantly wanting stuff, toys/sweets/treats..if we dont give it we are "the worst parents in the world" he struggles with school, letters are formed the wrong way round, he spells phonically, wont read, i have tried taking him to the library, buying comics, making holiday scrapbooks, allsorts. he gets no pleasure from reading at all. school say hes " average"..my feeling is bottom average. he doesnt seem to have many friends, never gets invited to tea...most of his class seem to have set friends..he moves about between groups..but is no-ones friend.
we have had a lovely holiday time..in terms of doing stuff, but he hasnt really enjoyed it.
his brother is a bright spark, very outgoing/chatty. theres definatly an element of jealousy there, and his brother is ahead in a lot of ways. i do try to split them up and do stuff with them separatly, but its not always easy.
i think what i am tying to say, is i dont like the boy my child has become, but dont know how to help him to change.
hes sulky, and his behaviour should be better for a boy appraoching 7. in fact, he behaved better at age 4.
can anyone help?

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prettyone · 23/08/2010 23:10

It's hard to have a "difficult" son. I have one! Is he frustrated? Younger bro is brighter, he may feel insecure about that. It's hard but try to look for the positive things in him. Praise him when you can to make him feel better. eg "Wow thats clever making that out of lego" Try not to worry! he does sound like A BOY to me! Lots of them dont like to read. If school say he is average, why say he is struggling at school? Maybe you are expecting too much from him?

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