Anyone got 26 month boy? Can we compare notes?

[jakesmum30]

Does your DS do any of the following:

Make a big mess EVERY meal time, eating a bit then rubbing/throwing food all over the place while shouting 'I'm making a mess'.

Kiss and hug sibling (who is 5 monthes old) and then hit them on the head/ scratch them/ pinch them.

Hit you and headbutt you (quite gently at the moment) and laugh.

Scream in the car to make baby brother cry, then laugh when they succeed.

Generally ignore you when you tell them not to touch something/do something.

And what do you do about it?

Do you ever shout at them??

I'm mainly struggling in the evenings when DH does late shifts and I do tea, bath and bed on my own as that is DS1's worst time of day and DS2 (5 months) is also grumpy.

Feeling like a really bad mum, friends children don't seem to act like this.
Sorry for long post

i was going to say: do you have some kind of "discipline" in place?

but the 1st thing i should really say is everytime your DS1 does something well, PRAISE HIM - i started doing this this week (thank you mum!) and it works so far

DS1 (22 months) has time out every time he hits me, hits his baby brother (4.5 months).
for small things: time out in whichever room we are, big things: he is being sent in his bedroom for 10 mins
i make him pick up all the food that is being thrown on the floor. (actually, i dont do that anymore, i praised him when he was nice and he hasnt thrown any food on the floor since so my method of making him pick the food is not very effective)

when he ignore me, i make a diversion for 5 minutes, try really hard to smile and relax and then try again to ask him whatever i want him to do- sometimes to laugh a bit really helps

good luck!

Thanks Tostaky! We are trying to use 123 magic as discipline, which involves sending him to his room. It's hard to work out how to apply it at the dinner table as it takes ages to wipe him clean in order to send him to his room, and I don't think he'd eat anything when he came back. Also a bit stuck with him screaming in the car to make DS2 cry. Not sure how to stop that.
I'm trying to give him a least an hour a day of one on one when DS2 is asleep, and diversion is also helpful.

Any suggestions on in car discipline gratefully received!!