DD1 is driving me and DH up the wall

[Lovemybrood]

My 11yr dd is driving me and dh up the wall.

We cannot talk about ANYTHING together without her butting in, interrupting, saying we are wrong, disagreeing etc.

Anything we need to discuss privately, we do so when she is bed and we do include her in alot of the conversations, but, if we are talking about anything from shift work, mutual friends, music, films etc she always have to have her say.

A friend came over the other day just for a chit chat and she deliberately positioned herself so that she could listen to everything that we said, even when I told her to stop it play with her sister and her friend who had come over.

She also shows off when ANYONE comes over, even her friend who comes over every day, when she is told about it she gets worse.

I am literally at my wits end with her.

It sounds as though you have a very bright little girl who knows exactly how to get the attention of both her parents. Perhaps what she needs now is firm boundaries of communication.I expect she knows these at school,otherwise the class would become chaotic. So now its setting down what is acceptable at home.

How about ignoring her or deliberately telling her in front of visitors that she is not part of the conversation? Im sure she will get the message that she cant be the centre of everything. Good Luck!

Thank you,

She is exceptionally bright and a model pupil at school.

I have tried ignoring but she keeps saying Mummy, Mummy, Mummy. Even my friend the other day had to tell her to stop ear wigging and interupting.

Then time out in her own space if she cant respect other peoples space and conversation.
Its not being harsh just teaching her social guidelines.Probably easier to do now rather than mid teens.

You need to keep reminding her that it is rude to interrupt. I remember my mum saying this to me frequently when I was very, very young. It is very basic training in manners.

When she does interrupt you should make her leave the room. Be consistant. If she doesn't learn now, she will be very unpopular.