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have i done the right thing?

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booyhoo · 20/08/2010 16:12

ds is 5. there is a boy who is 9 that live in our cul-de-sac that ds sometimes plays with when the older boy has no other friends about.

so ds has just come squealing into the house in sheer panic, i thought he had been stung again. when i got him calmed down i asked him what happened. he said "X was going to kick my ass". I asked ds why and he said he threw a stone at him. so i have told ds he can't play with the boy anymore. he also got sent to his room for throwing the stone and i will take him over to apologise for it, but it is more stopping him playing with X again that i need advice on. it means that ds could be out playing whilst this boy is and not be able to play with him. is it too harsh?

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sorrento56 · 20/08/2010 16:14

So your son threw a stone at this older boy and he threatened to kick your son? I would ground him for 2 days and then supervise very closely the next time they play together.

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booyhoo · 20/08/2010 16:15

would you let them play together again? i am thinking it might be better if ds sticks to his own friends that are his age.

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sorrento56 · 20/08/2010 16:16

I think you can't really stop them unless you micro manage their time and tbh they were both as bad to each other.

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booyhoo · 20/08/2010 16:19

oh i know they were, ds should never have thrown the stone in the first place and if he had done it to a friend his own age it would have been a case of either me or the other parent telling him off for it but the fact that it was an older child and they were outside rather than in a home meant that this boy was able to dole out the punishment as he saw fit. and with him being 9 it meant ds would have gotten hurt.

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sorrento56 · 20/08/2010 16:37

My 6 and 9 year olds have started playing out the front with some boys aged 7-9 and it has been hard to let them go but good for them as they have really enjoyed it. I would have a word with your son saying if he is going to do things that are naughty/bad/wrong whatever word suits you, then consequences will happen.

rainbowinthesky · 20/08/2010 16:39

I think a 5 year old needs some sort of supervision outside, sorry.

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booyhoo · 20/08/2010 16:42

i agree rainbow which is why i have said he can't play with him. his otehr two friends come to our house or he goes to play at theirs and they play in teh garden but ds had started asking to play out with X and for a while it had been ok. i think today was just a reminder of how young ds still is.

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sorrento56 · 20/08/2010 17:16

BTW mine are being supervised when out the front. DH usually sits outside with his laptop.

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