Need help with 2 year who does not stop screaming

[laura2]

Hiya, My 2 year old DD want to screaming and shouting. She does not talk yet. I have DS 4 months old that can't get a sleep during the day for all the screaming. I have tried the naughty seat and ignoring her but nothing seems to work. It is like she is always on a high.

I am desperate for any help.

Sorry bad spelling. My 2 year old wany STOP creaming

is she in pain?
how much time are you spending with her - does she want your attention? she might be feeling pushed out by your 4month old. what about spending a bit of one-to-one time just with her?
is she hungry?
is she allergic to any foods she is eating? lots of sugar/additives/colourings?
overtired?

What type of screaming is this. My 2 yo likes a screm but not all day long.

She is not in pain.
I spend 2-3 hours a day with her and my partner spends time with her aswell.
She always want to eat all day long.
She is not akkergic to any food and i limit her to any sugar/additives/colourings.
She always has an afternoon nap and in bed for 8-12 hours a night.

does anything set her off?

When ever she has been told No

Perhaps you need to avoid saying the word "no" and instead use distractions, pick your battles carefully, always be calm but firm and try reward sytstems.

Put her in another room close the door, hold the handle if needed and give her a few mins to get her tantrum over. I bet she knows shes geting to u.

Put her in another room close the door, hold the handle if needed and give her a few mins to get her tantrum over. I bet she knows shes geting to u.

I have tried putting her in another room and holding the door closed all she does is kick the door and scream louder.

You need to be consistent ie if you are putting her in the room let her scream, dont give in.

But what do i do if they are both screaming at once

Mines a screamer as well, he is now 2 and 3 months and I have really found that as his language has developed his screaming has really reduced. He had been screaming since he was about 1.

Also mine just turns on the screaming, if you ignore him or tell him to stop screaming or he is upstairs in the time out room for 2 minutes he has the incredible ability to calm down. Sometimes of course he works himself up into such a frenzy that he can't stop himself. But really it is getting better, hope it will do so for you to.

is this serendipity or what? i just logged on to ask the very same question as my ds (2 yrs) will not stop screaming. Forthe last 2 days he has been screaming for a yes or a no. Day & night. Dh & I are worried & stressed out of our sculls. We've tried everything to distract him, comfort him, be firm with him, get cross with him, leaving lights on, doors open, giving him extra feeds... help. we are truly at our wits' end!

I guess it's not serendipity after all since no-one's added anything.

So, BUMP

(please)

I have a 23 month old who of course likes a good scream but its rare and very short. I find she only screams to be defiant and to get our attention. It seems like her way to assert herself which she thinks is funny. She is very good with words and sentences already and I know I am very good at reading her cues which for me reduces screaming and something I think is important, is a hardly use the word NO... but explain stuff simply and take time to express the situation in a non, NO controlling manner.

I sing the action song ´Row your boat´ which has two verses - the last sentence of 2nd verse being ...if you see a crocodile don´t forget to scream. It gives her a chance to scream and express herself and create a distinction between fun time squealing and annoying screaming.

I really like this guy - dr sears (father of 8 kids) - you might like to check out his website and see what he says about behaviour. this and here

serendipity arrives?

thank you, papillion/serendipity. i have heard of Sears but gave them the heave-ho when pg cos the the Birth Book is so biased towards "natural" births. i will give them another chance. anything for some peace.

ds seems really upset; screams & screams & screams til red all over & sweaty. Sounds as if he's being tortured. it's horrifying!