How would you handle this one?

[tryingtobemarypoppins2]

DS 2:8 months just started potty training.

You ask him before a very exciting activity (helping daddy cut the lawn) to do a wee - he does this then off he goes.

An hour later in the garden starts doing the "I need a wee dance". Daddy asks him to go and use potty, he refuses and has a tantrum, 2 mins later wets himself.....

I can see this being an issue at sift play/out and about etc.

Would you punish??

WWYD?

No definitely not punish. Get Daddy to stop and go with him.

In soft play area you may need to persuade or drag him when you see the dance, it will pass he is only little.

2.8 is still quite young to be potty trained. DS1 was 3 and a bit before he was trained. Perhaps leave it for a few months until he is ready to do it himself and not have a tantrum?

He is quite emotional too, bless him. Now I have started would it be ok to stop?

Now you have started, I wouldn't stop - he has done so well.

2.8 is not too young to be potty trained. My son was at 2.3 and did have the same issue. He would hate to be interrupted when he was enjoying himself to go to the toilet. My Nephew is 2.3 is the same.

Keep going with it and explain before the activity that he needs to go to the toilet before he starts and he must come with you if he needs a wee while he is playing. If you or Dad notice him doing the 'wee dance' - be firm and bring him by the hand to the potty or the toilet, explaining that as soon a he has had a wee he can go and play again.

Well done - keep it up.

I started and stopped I was on a fools errand with my very strong willed little girl and after about three months she did it herself over night. She actually said "my turn" and that was that.
My ds took ages so it really is all down to the individual child. Try again in a few weeks if you gut is telling to.

Yes, dad needs to go with him. don't make a fuss, just take him by the hand and go. And big praise that he went to the toilet himself (even if it was accompanied in reality).

I feel terrible as this morning he clearly needed a poo, he wouldn't go, said he didn't like it, I wouldn't give into his nappy request and this went on for 40mins. I terribly said he could only come downstairs when he was finished......he cried and cried, finally I gave up and he came downstairs and pooed in his pants :(

In a way I deserevd it. I shouldn't have said he couldn't come downstairs. Shunting the stair gate really upset him. I was just at the end of my teather :(

Ds is 2yrs 3mnths, when we started training him the majority of his accidents were when distracted in similar situation to yours. If I took him somewhere like soft play, I wouldnt even wait to see the dance, after about 1hr I'd just tell rather than ask, and say it was time to go to the toilet. A few times if he didnt want to come, I'd turn it into a game....pick him up and 'fly' him to the toilet, or spinning tops to the toilet etc. As times gone on he's got a lot better at holding it, and asking when to go when we are out and about.

My DD2 having been dry reliably for months wet herself at the top of the slide at a play barn a couple of months ago (about 3yr 2 months)!!! Luckily she was there with her Dad (had to chuckle later, poor DH!).

Not a good place to clear up! Another lovely Mum there helped him!

They do sometimes forget when excited at parties etc. He'll get there.

there are a few silly games you can play re going tot he loo'. a good one that worked for me was the pink?blue mouse. as soon as I knew the loo was needed without saying the word I just said we are going to look for the "mouse" but it could only be seen whilst Ds/D was on said loo and had been. it worked. got to the point we would be going every few minutes to see said mouse but that was better than fighting.!!!! another trick was to say I knew there was a secret wee wee waiting to come out that only we knew about. also it doesn't hurt to give a small rewrard a couple of choc buttons??

I have tried potty training my 3 yr old ds on two occasions - two months before his 3rd birthday and just recently for 2 weeks. Each time I have given in as he just doesn't seem to be getting it. I had one final blast at it during the week and by lunchtime there was 6 pairs of wet pants in the machine, a wet sofa and two puddles on the floor. He is now refusing to sit on the potty and wont go on the toilet either. He started nursery this week and really should be trained but he can go there in pull ups. Should we just have a break and try again in a couple of months? I don't think he is ready or then he just cant be bothered!I also think he is getting sick and fed up with me and hubby asking every 5 mins if he needs to have a pee! Can't really blame him! ANy tips?

frandango I am hoping nursery will help! They will see others go to the loo, they could go at the same time, sometimes someone else asking them to go works better than us telling them too.
I am assuming your all rewarded out?? Chocolate buttons??

Yip all rewarded out - he soon sussed out the chocolate stars but to end up with he just thought he would get one for just sitting on the potty and not producing anything! Hoping nursery will help.