How can I get my 3 year old to wee IN THE TOILET

[Culshaw]

I have been toilet training my 3 year old twins since early May. I am really struggling with one of them in particluar who just doesn't seem to understand that he has to go to the toilet to wee and instead wees wherever he is standing unless I get him to the toilet in time. I have tried sticker charts, bribes and talking endlessly to him about where he needs to go if needs a wee. He will tell me he'll go in the toilet next time only to wee on the floor 5 minutes later. I feel awful because I am getting so worked up about it and I know this is the one thing you are not supposed to do.
Any advice?

No expert but just toilet trained DD (2.5)

No idea whether young boys wee sitting or standing???? but we got DD a peppa pig toilet seat and she loves it, asks for it all the time.

Do you think the issue is more that he wants to go elsewhere or isnt sure when the need to wee will come on?

He is just not ready. Put him back in pull ups and wait a couple of weeks and try again.

You could get one of those balls that float to give him something to aim at and try to 'sink'?

The thing is he did really well to begin with so i know he can do it. He just seems to have taken a real step backwards. I Like the peppa pig seat idea. Think maybe something to make the prospect of doing it in the toilet a bit more exciting for him is worth a try. Might try the things you put in the toilet as well. Thanks

I got a padded loo seat from Mothercare. It got a bit of a varied write-up because if it gets splashed (or hosed ) you have to rinse under a tap because it won't come to bits, but I figured it was nothing that Dettol spray can't handle!

Anyway, DS will sit happily on small loos at nursery, or 'his' loo seat at home (which also has a step to get up there). He refuses point blank to sit on a potty (though will stand and pee in it). I think he likes being able to assemble the loo and move the step over before he goes, and to move the step to the sink for handwashing afterwards.

The nursery did most of the training for me, and it was basically to sit a toddler on the loo every 20-30 minutes and to praise them when they did something, rather than trust them to say they wanted to go. It took less than two weeks for the penny to drop with my headstrong DS, and though we still get accidents where he'll just stand there and watch himself pee on the carpet most of the time he'll take himself off to the loo and just do it or he will ask to go first.

Culshaw - have you had any luck yet. we've been potty training my 3 1/2 year old since March. he has told us he needs a wee a total of 2 times, and has just weed on my friend who is visiting after being asked whether he needed the loo and answered no. the thing is he didn't even know he'd done it! we are at the end of our tether. not really been brought to tears by parenting yet - but I think I'm there! just wondered if you'd succeeded in the end and had any hints and tips.
Holly

have you tried chocolate buttons? Worked for DS.

mummysbigtummy, you have to know that every child respond different to potty training. i started mine when he was 2.5 and it did not work. refusing to use the potty and peeing on himself everytime so i stopped. i start again around 3.1 with pull up and going with him to the toilet every 45min. and after 4 months of that routine he's now using the main loo and does not even wet the bed. he's 3.8. i never bribe him or anything

With great difficulty. My 3yo DS pees everywhere, the seat, the rim, around the basin, you name it.

I'm hoping that by 10 he'll have got the idea. Invest in some bleach.

You could try a couple of ping pong balls in the toilet. If he aims at them and hits he could get a reward. (if he's happy standing).
Boys often prefer to sit down to start with.
But I agree it could be he's just not ready.
Siblings are often quite different.