Stopping my 2.6 year old proclaiming "dont like HIM/HER"

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My DD is being awful, particularly bad day today. Know she is 2 and dealing with new sibling (12 weeks), separate thread but her behaviour today has been dreadful.

I dont have the enery go in to detail but part of it as included being horrid to other children, including loudly picking out people she doesnt like, for no reason at all.

Including play date this afternoon when she was horrid, wouldnt apologise and justified her behaviour by ""but I dont like HIM"

How does he learn this is unacceptable behaviour?

I put her in her room where she screamed for 10 mins.

Since coming out she has been nice as pie, but very manipulative "I do like him now mummy" and "you are my bestest friend mummy" etc etc etc ....

Well - others might not agree, but I think 2.6 is a bit early to get a meaningful apology. And the nastiness is just a warped way of getting attention, so the quickest way to get past this stage is for you to be extremely low-key about reprimanding her, to apologise yourself to the other parent or child, if the child is upset (for politeness sake) and to recognise that she will end up a lovely little girl.

Been through this with jealous DS1 who was 2.7 when DS2 was born. He was just really rathjer angry about this intrusion into his life and expressing it the only way he knew how

Thanks

The other child was really crying, little boy.

In fact this happened just after I was saying to the other mum that she may be getting boisterous and she said that her DS would "stand up for himself if need be" Bless him, he didn't. I was already on my way over to intervene.

I hate this stage (hopefully) on liking/disliking. I feel 2 is a bit young to be actively disliking certain people. almost a bit like bullying?

Have ended up in tears once friend left and DD saying but I like YOU mummy, bless her.

Its the accumulation of a long day of horribleness with her behaviour and my 12 week old fretting most of the day.

My ds 2yrs 3mnths has started saying this a lot lately...but he does it completely randomly so dont think he realises what he is saying but just a way of getting attention. Sometimes we are at the shops and he'll say 'I dont like her/him mummy' about other people (children and adults). I usually just say 'Thats not very nice, I dont like you talking like that' and then ignore. Mainly because I think its an attention thing, and so dont want to give him a lot of time, even negative attention is still attention.

Dont worry, I'm sure your friend understands, at this age they are just trying things out to see what reaction they get a lot of the time.

Nah - try not to worry about bullying. She's just saying what pops into her head. She does need to learn that words can hurt other people. You could simply say - "look - can you see X is crying - that's because you hurt his feelings".
Also - and this may be pushing it a bit, but i wonder if on some level she wants to be saying "I don't like him/her" about her sibling, but know this would be going to far, so it's a displacement of those feelings

OTOH, my son was brutally honest - he once said "Mummy, can you go outside so I can hit Charlie" (he was a previously gentle child who used to bop his brother when he got the chance. So they express it in different ways. It's their job to embarass us with the most socially-unacceptable things

I would also add, that during these difficult times, I reduced the opportunities for 'orrible behaviour. Cut down the time you spend in situations she misbehaves, and make sure she's not hungry (DS2 used to have a total personality change when hungry). Don't think you have to plug away "socialising" her if the net result is more stress for you.