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DS 6yo very, very, badly behaved this morning !!!

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jac34 · 28/08/2005 12:25

He is being a right little so and so.
He has always been bad for shouting and screaming when asked to do something he doesn't want to do, but it seems to have got realy bad recently.

Every morning over the holidays when I've asked him to get dressed he has screamed and shouted. He also does it when asked to come to the table for food, switch off the TV, stop playing on his gameboy/play station/computer, go to bed or have a bath.

I usually have to ask a number of times and end up getting angry before he finally cooperates.

So,when he refused to get dressed this morning, and shouted that he didn't want to go out for the day "it's stupid", I said,fine, DH,DS, and stepDD will go out and have fun and I'll stay behind to mind you, who will be staying in all day !!!
He didn't think we would follow through,but we have, they went about 45 minutes ago.He is still furious that they went without him, and is still screaming and raging, I can't believe he is still carrying on !!!
I'm giving him limited attention,and my day has been ruined, do you think we did the right thing???
I just wasn't prepared to put up with this bad behaviour any longer!!!

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Distel · 28/08/2005 12:35

I think that you did the right thing, it might seem hard to deal with at the moment but if it makes things better in the long run by him realising that there are reasons for him doing things, then it can only be a good thing. Good luck.

Gobbledigook · 28/08/2005 12:37

I really admire you and think you did the right thing - I struggle to take things like this away but next time you threaten it he'll know you mean it. My problem is that I never follow through because it's not possible to leave one behind and I'm not staying in all day with 3 kids!! I need to find another sanction...

bubblerock · 28/08/2005 12:40

They just don't know when to stop do they? My 7 year old DS is being a total shit - he's acting like a hormonal teenage girl, crying, mood swings, shouting at me!!! And DS2 has just hit terrible 2's early - I give up!!!!!!!!!!

Just so you know you're not alone jac34!

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jac34 · 28/08/2005 12:44

He's finally stopped screaming, it took about an hour.
He has now started asking me when they are coming back, I know he'll keep asking all day, he hates being separated from his twin.
Thats why I'm giving limited attention, whenever we've tried anything like this in the past it's back fired as, one DS has had one to one attention from me all day,which they love, and it doesn't seem so much of a punishment.

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hercules · 28/08/2005 12:46

Yes, you did the right thing.

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jac34 · 28/08/2005 13:00

Don't know whether it's hurt me more than him. Today was the only day we were all going to be together over the bank holiday. Also, I've had a few health worries lately, and was looking forward to aday out to take my mind off it all.

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cerys · 28/08/2005 15:17

hello jac34, how are you? I'm sorry your DS has been horrid, but I also think you did the right thing in staying home. We have had to do this with DD1 (5yrs) and she definitely behaved better for a while afterwards, as she knows we mean it. It is hard on you, though, missing out on the day.
I hope your health problems are being dealt with? Sorry to hear things have been getting you down. I thought of you the other week as we went to Roath Park with my brother one day - the children loved it. Unfortunately the 2 DDs and DH all had sickness and diahorrea (spelling?)that night and we think it was from a Mr Whippy type ice cream bought from the kiosk there. Think we'll avoid that next time!
take care xx

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jac34 · 28/08/2005 15:29

Hi Cerys,
Good to hear from you again !!
Didn't you have a 3rd, how is he/she ???
Anyone who walked in our house at the moment would think DS was a little angel.
He has been trying to get me to play games with him, but I calmly explained that it wouldn't be a punishment if he got to have loads of fun.
I think it may have done the trick(for now). I was telling my Mum on the phone how he was behaving, and she tried to say that I had a bit of a willfull streek when I was a child, and he must have got it off me, but I'm sure her memory isn't what it was

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Monstersmum · 28/08/2005 15:55

Def sounds like you did the right thing - it is very hard to stick to your guns though - esp when you want to go too.

Have you tried a sticker chart for willingness to do what he's asked? I had probs with DS last year with getting ready for school and we did a reward chart which seemed to work. Need to get one organised again for this year!!

Or there is the famous pasta jar which I may try.

Vaunda · 31/08/2005 08:30

BubbleRock,
Not sure if it is a 7 yr old thing or a boy thing as you have just described my 7 yr old DS. and theres me thinking it is something serious with him lol. oh well it is almost time to go swimming.

magnolia1 · 31/08/2005 11:06

JAC34: I have 6 year old twin girls and I know exactly where you are coming from!! One of mny twins is constantly shouting, screaming or hurting her siblings when things don't go her way. I very rarely carry out threats which I should because like many of the posters here I would then be stuck at home with all 4 girls!!

It is so hard when one is naughtier than the rest and I feel like I am constantly telling her off

I have no advice coz I am in need of it too lol....

cazzybabs · 31/08/2005 11:15

Definatyl agree with the sticker chart - always better to praise the postive behaviour than have to deal with sanctions. Can his twin have one too - so he doesn't feel isolated and then you need to think of treats when they get stickers - I don't know five minutes extra playstaion for 3 stickers to a game of football in the park with dad for 10 stickers (sorry if I am teaching you to suck eggs). You could write his targets up - prehaps get him to help you come up with them, only go for 1 or 2 at a time and make sure they are achievable on a day to day basis.

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