Please tell me about the worst day you have ever had with your 2/3 year old

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Had the day from hell......thinking of handing in my mother job title......

well i've had ones that have ended with me screaming blue murder at the children and smacking them

i'd say they were my lowest points. i can't even remember any specifics.

:( being tired doesn't help tho!

I'm having one now. Both up at the crack of dawn, neither will do what I say and DS1 is refusing to nap - I can barely keep my eyes open. Feel like crying.

It was possibly today
I have been Very Shouty, which is not something I generally advocate

3yo is currently practising selective deafness, coupled with lots of defiance, which definitely pushes my buttons

DS1 having a breakfast time OCD tantrum about who gets to do what bit of making porridge. DS2 screaming at me continually having been up all night feeding. Staving and knackered, I looked at the ceiling, sreamed outloud, then went to lock myself in the living room while I lay on the floor and sobbed... Twas only 7.30am.

Other days I love them both to bits

Good days - Bad days.

too many to mention with DD and her tantrums but thankfully today was a good day!

Yesterday. DD1 (3) screamy, huffy, tantrummy little nightmare the whole day, including one major league meltdown at dinnertime. DD2 (1) whingey and teething, wanting the same night garden book read to her approx. 20000 times before breakfast, and getting the point across by hitting me with said hardbacked, pointy cornered book until I gave in.

They were both little angels today though!

Tantrums, poop, flung juice, strops, screaming... enough about me.

We tried to have a family day out a while back but eventually had to go home as our three year old was "spirited" to say the least and it was wearing everyone down.

Why or why do the worst days seem to be in a major public place though!?

Oh there has been so many, but today came pretty high on the list of terrible days. Not listening, boisterous, hyper beahviour - constantly pushing limits ahhhhh. I would have resigned a year ago if I could ;-) (Apart from he can be gorgeously cute and loveable!)

The worst day i ever had was the time I went to the Tate Modern with my friend's children... they damaged a £137,000 piece of artwork, and then ran off. It took me three hours to find them again.My friend is not speaking to me any more-it was HER idea in the first place

I can't remember, but it culminated in him sitting on his own in the centre of the Co=op forecourt, screaming his head off, whilst I sat 50 yards away sobbing my eyes out, and our food congealed in the cafe inside.

A little old lady in a lemon coloured cardigan went over and talked so nicely to him, and he calmed down, then she tottered over to me, and I quaked in my boots at the admonishment I was about to receive....

And she perched herself next to me and said

"When my son was little like yours, I took him on the train to Plymouth for the day. He was so very naughty that I smacked him very very hard, and I've never forgiven myself for it, although he's a 63 year old businessman now. But you're doing the better thing. Sometimes you do need to just put them away from you whilst you calm down, well done dear."

dollydaydream1 NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you serious!??

colditz what a sweet lady.....bless her heart...

My worst has to be my first trip to toddler group with DS1 and then new baby DS2. DS1 (2 years old) was so completely vile that I was getting looks from other mums and it was just horrible. I ended up carrying him out of the hall under my arm kicking and screaming, with DS2 in car seat on the other arm. We got to the car and I put them both down and DS1 legged it round the back of the car into the road...I saw a car coming out of the corner of my eye and had to leap around the other end of the car into the road to yell 'stop!' at the poor woman driving, who to her credit immediately emergency stopped and hit neither of us. If she had been going a bit faster...well, I cried for the rest of the day at my stupidity at letting DS1 get away from me like that.

Still, makes me at least realise i dont get days like that any more!

Oh God, i actually posted my worst day on here just a few weeks ago! It wasn't even that bad looking back, it was just my state of mind. But it went something like this:

DD1 (2) wouldn't eat brekkie, branflakes and milk all over floor.

DD2 (8 weeks) wouldn't drink milk. Sick and milk all over floor.

DD1 needed a poo and wee whilst DD2 was feeding. Wee and poo all over floor.

DD1 wanted to 'help' me stop DD2 from crying. So sat on her and almost suffocated her.

It went on from there really. It will get better hun. Then it'll get worse again. Then it'll get better. Then they'll leave home and we can all go on a cruise and buy a convertible. xx

My worst was taking DS (aged 3) to see DH in hospital after his bike accident. When visiting time was over, DS refused to be parted from DH and threw major tantrum in hospital corridor. I was heavily pg with DS2 at the time and couldn't lift him, and he was fighting against me tooth and claw. We both sat on the floor for ages bawling our eyes out in the corridor while lots of people passed by saying unhelpfully "Is everything OK?" until a really nice nurse stopped and talked to DS until he calmed down.

OopsDoneItAgain - toddler group antics sounds very familiar!

OopsDoneItAgain - lol!!! :)

Do you think this age is the hardest....or is it so much harder with because I have a newborn....some days I look at my DS1 and think "is this really normal?" I am hating potty training, he today refused to go as he was too busy then did a massive wee everywhere. Yesterday he was so over tired and his behaviour in the park was just SO embarrisng, but not as embarrising as the kicking and screaming fit as we left. I am dreading thsi weekend as we have guests and he will be on show.

Roll on that cruise and convertable!

Well one day I actually pinned my ds down on the sofa and screamed at him and another day I yanked his hair

I will never forgive myself but I do believe I have come a long way since then and have never repeated such incidences. I hope to god I never will again. I do partly blame tiredness, lack of support, depression and an abusive childhood but I know I was wrong and hideous. But hey you just have to keep going. I am in a much better place now and my ds is a wonderful little chap who seems to show no ill affects of my terrible parenting on those occasions

If he ever remembers I will just hold my hand up and say 'yes I was so, so wrong but it was nothing to do with you. You were a gorgeous little boy, I just didn't cope well on those occasions'

ttbmp -

Its a bit of both I think - even without a new baby 2 years old can be a trial (as Im finding out with DS2!)but throw a newborn into the mix and you have a tired mum, demanding baby, new going-out-logistics to learn, potentially jealous DC1, etc etc.

Throw potty training into the mix and it is hell, I seem to recall. Was probably up there in my top 5 most stressful phases! If its really stressing you out, can you just leave it for a bit longer..? It was sooo much easier second time round, having given up a few weeks before with DS1. (Apologies OP for minor hijack!)

not long after DS2 was born, (he is now 12 weeks old) DH hd just gone back to work and here I was at home with 2 boys, completely unprepared for the mayem. DS1 (age3) had just broken up from nursery for the summer and had decided to choose this day to regress with his toilet training, DS2 had just developed colic and screamed for about 10 hours straight - i kid you not! lord knows how i got through the day with only with 2 hours sleep. DS1, who had also realised he had a voice and opinion and was going to use them, weed all over the house, refused to eat anything that was placed in front of him and continued to wake his baby brother for his own amusement whenever i got him off to sleep! The car, which is my one main weapon of defence cos it gets them both to have a sleep without much effort, had broken down the day before and I was waiting to get the battery replaced! This was all the week before payday so didnt even have the funds to do a fun activity! Needless to say as soon as DH arrived home, he was handed the baby and the remote for the dvd player and I sodded off to bed in floods of tears. Things have much improved since, but I will never forget that day!

Having another awful day with my two. Tried an outing this morning which was a disaster. Tried to go to a children's play at the library but DS1 refused to go in, refused to walk then broke one of the library's computers (this is after breaking his father's computer and my sunglasses this week). DS2 started screaming as well at which point I also burst into tears and dragged both of them back to the car. Tried to get DS1 to have his nap and he refused. Won't stay in bed, have put him back about 20 times and he still gets out. Have screamed at him and am now ignoring him. Terrible terrible parenting but just feel I can't cope anymore.

Oh Gangle has your weekend been any better? Its SO SO HARD! Know just how you feel.....I hope its not a 2 boys thing......I know its not loads of my friends with girls have similar days too.

kianncodysmama what a day! You must remind them of this on their wedding day!

Mine was also with a newborn and two year old - dh first day back at work after paternity leave

foolishly left two yr old watching a DVD and two wk old dd in the bouncy chair asleep while I grabbed a quick shower

cue hysterical dd screaming

ran downstairs and dd face down on floor , ds astride her 'play fighting like I do with daddy'

I didn't leave them alone together for a good while after that

other trying days are the ones when you get no peace: two kids even in the loo with you
a six hour car journey with dd being carsick every half an hour
family events when your kids are the worst behaved in the room and you know everyone is judging you

and one day in tesco pushing doublepushchsir with glass bottle tucked inside hood, ds pulled the hood and bottle smashed - hideously embarassing

compo fantastic description of my life!!