DS1 recently started wetting himself again age 4.9

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My DS1 was toilet trained at 2.2yrs. It took ages but he got there in the end (by age 3). For a long time he was totally dry (though has never been dry at night yet). In the past few months, he has started having wee wee accidents again, once or twice a day. Sometimes it's a bit in his pants and trousers and he then makes it to the toilet. Occasionally, it is the full amount! I've no idea why he has started doing this again. He seems to 'forget' until it is too late, or is so engrossed in what he is doing that he doesn't notice until it is too late, or sometimes I think he just can't be bothered.

I've tried telling him off along the lines of 'your a big boy now, and big boys don't do that', but it's not registering. He starts school in September.

I'm hoping that when he gets to school, this will stop. Any experience/advice?

He's probably very nervous about starting school.

DD is also going through a wet again stage and we worked out with her it was because she was so busy playing she forgot to go and it is genuine forgetting rather than 'can't be arsededness'

You probably need to remind him more often till he gets back into the swing of things. But do remember to check with him it's not hurting to wee or he's not had a bad experience on the loo (like falling in).

See, he's a very confident child and does not seem worried about school at all. There was barely a backward glance when he went in for his intro session. So, it's probably forgetfulness ...

I think you are right about needing to remind him more to go. I think I need to treat it like potty training again

Please also consider whether it may be a urinary tract infection (or - and this is an outside possibility but it happened to us - type one diabetes developing). Other symptoms of t1 include thirst, lethargy, weight loss, pear drops smell on breath - but not all of these.

If you have no success with the behavioural method (and it's probably most likely to be that I hope) then check it out with a gp doing a urine 'dip' test.

Thanks Bramblebooks; hadn't thought of that.