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Painfully shy 7 yrs old DD

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biglips · 26/08/2005 14:39

(she isnt my DD but my Dps DD)

Ever since ive met her since she was 2, she always had that shyness in her so i said to DP "She will break out of it, once she start school", she had started school 2 yrs ago but is now more shy as she clinged onto my leg and she burst out crying (esp if men talk to her - even my brother as she end up hiding behind me!) .. And even last week, we went to a outdoor show to see Noddy as she wanted to go, and one of the characters took a lolly pop out of her mouth pretending to be sucking on it (but it couldnt cos it had a costome big head on), DD was laughing with us and so was everyone else but suddenly she burst into tears - sobbing - coz we thought the character wasnt gonna give back her lolly pop and everyone was going "AAWWWWWWW".. later on that day she said she didnt like everyone laughing at her but Dp said that she was laughing aswell..

or we went to her cousins bday party, and she was stuck to my DPs leg so she came up with us as we were helping out and DD was happy and sat down, then the rest of the kids came up 10 mins later but DD just froze for the whole hour staring at the floor, she wouldnt speak to us or eat or anything... i wish she was living with us as ill make sure ill take her to libraries or a club..
Awww i feel sorry for her but we dont want to push her in the wrong direction as i dont think she have a social thing to do eg Brownies (which i used to love)

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biglips · 26/08/2005 14:40

she comes down to ours every 2 weeks and if i have time, i take her to the library to mix but i cannot take her to a club cos she doesnt live with us... and we do praise her alot too

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biglips · 26/08/2005 14:42

ooopps - she is 6 not 7

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biglips · 26/08/2005 17:33

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biglips · 26/08/2005 20:32

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Mandymoo · 26/08/2005 21:33

Havent really got any good advice but DD is nearly 3 and extremely clingy, anxious and shy. I started a thread under behaviour today as its really starting to get to me. What is she like when she is at home? X

biglips · 26/08/2005 21:46

well thats the thing as we dont know as she doesnt really talk about "home" as id you start asking questions, she wont answer them!.. but she mentioned summat about Ballet the other day but Dp had been told that DD only been a few times as it not a proper class

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Mandymoo · 26/08/2005 21:55

is she quite an anxious child in general?

biglips · 27/08/2005 00:41

yes she is abit anxious as she wont do anything now like clapping in a crowd where before she used to but the anxious probably never kicked in till now. But she is painfully shy though

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Chandra · 27/08/2005 00:55

I don't think if this may help, but worth a check:

www.raisingkids.co.uk/ASK/ex06_pri07.asp

Chandra · 27/08/2005 00:56

Sorry, I meant to say that I was not sure how much it may help but it may provide a starting point (Falls asleep on the table)

sanchpanch · 27/08/2005 08:19

its a shame you cant take her to a club, my dd was much the same, so i started her at a gym club and trampoline club and she has made vast improvements with her confidence,,

biglips · 27/08/2005 11:35

i know as we just have to put up with it then

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MumOnaMission · 27/08/2005 16:14

Can you talk to her mum? I really think a club would help. My dd was painfully shy when she was 3 and I took her to dancing lessons. It took her a while to join in but luckily I found one where the parents joined in so she got there gradually and now I don't go in at all. It's unbelievable how much confidence it has given her.

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