Help..best thing to do??

[steph1512]

Please come and tell me your success stories.

My ds 18wks has a dummy was not overly bothered orignally..but maybe as ive given it more he has become more attatched.

Prob is he now cries for it most times he stirs through the night he still has night feeds aswell which is fine but its when he isnt hungry he can stir and cry for the dummy then it up and down on and off for ages sometimes replacing it!

He is also grumbing more in the daytime..but fine when sucking his dummy (something im not keen on)He does every now and then suck two fingers..something my dd2 does and although a pain to stop it also been a blessing as she is soooo easy sleep wise!

So i would ideally like to get rid asap in the hope he finds his fingers, my problem is im not really sure how.

My feeling is probably a few nights of tears then he will forget. But i tried last night and i did the worst thing ..caved after he got very upset and still was very upset 30min later

dont worry about the dummy. what adult do you know that sucks one,!!!!!!??? If they need it and it gives them comfort and stops 'grumbling etc' so what. when he is older he will suck his fingers and give that up eventually. dont worry. good luck

I had a similar issue with mine everytime dummy fell out shed cry so id have to sleep with my arm over the cot holding on to it!!!!!!!! I quickly got rid of the dummy and put up with her moaning and crying for a bit and then she started to put her finger if she wantd to suck as comfort

I think that a baby who needs a dummy,needs a dummy.

A baby who is night feeding and keeps losing his suction and dropping it is sucking v hard and probably needs more feed due to a growth spurt or any manner of reason.

It is hard work but its not forever and im inclined after ds3 (ds1&2 were 'textbook')to think what the hell if a dummy settles him give him a dummy.

ok Thanks..def dont think its hunger as he feed both sides and then if i offer again to be on the safe side he gets cross!

Saying that weve had a couple of better nights he has been going down at 7with a couple of dummy runs then once he is in a deep sleep spits it out then he has woken for a feed at 1030 and 2 then back off until 7am. And last night woke at 11pm then back of apart from about two dummy replacements until 7am so cant complain.

Just worried it may get worse if he gets more attatched, but also agree with you nickschick that ds being the third and having 3 4 and under its a bit easier well for me to go with what ds wants rather than battles! Although would still rather he didnt have one but he seems to get alot of plessure sucking even in the day when he isnt tired or hungry!

Might have to just go with the flow and hope he either gives it up or learns to find it himself in a few months

feddup just wondered how much your lo cried and for how long when you gave it up?

I tried not giving it the other night after his evening feed and ds got hysterical and didnt calm down i eventually gave in(worse thing to do i know) but as soon as i gave him the dummy he rolled over and went straight to sleep.

Ive seen on other threads they can cry for hours gradually less for a few nights..then just completely stop crying when you put them down after that

Steph, didnt cry much prob between half and hr 45 mins during which i was strokibg etc, but quickley realised finger (thankGod!!!) i think rather than give into dummy i would prob cuddle etc until sleep but i would persist in not giving in as once baby realises finger crying is over!!! And yes i am not totally opposed to dummy (ie if they want it just give it to them) which is fine if they can keep the thing in their mouth n not scream the place dwn every five mins when it falls out! Its abt giving a new mum a little convenience and a little more sleep (with mine id literally fall asleep with pins n needles in my arms holding onto the damn thing!!!)(the dummy of course)

Thanks fed up ds did cry alot but i was doing more of the staying close by but not picking up..was worried about starting another sleep habit..the dummy one kind of started after trying to break the feeding to sleep habit! Which was fab at first then he was eventually taking forever to fall asleep only to wake up not long after for a quick suck!