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Anyone else got a total tomboy daughter?

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missmoopy · 06/08/2010 20:33

My dd (5) is a complete and total tomboy. She loves power rangers, dragons, dinosaurs etc etc. She wears pretty much what I buy, but isn't fond of pink. Other girls at school like HSM, pink stuff etc etc and I think she gets left out as a result. She doesn't mind much, but I do worry she will get upset when older.
I am totally fine with her choices of toys etc - rather that than a house full of pink TBH!
Anyone else have tomboys and how do they manage with girls at school?

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lookingtothefuture · 06/08/2010 23:53

I have a tomboy DD aged 8. It seems that alot of her friends are too, so maybe blue is the new pink! I wouldn't worry about her being left out as i am sure she will not be alone, and better that than she feels the need to follow the crowd and do what she feel's is expected of her. My DD is to be a bridesmaid next year and is insisting on trousers! If she got her way, it would be her full football kit!

cat64 · 07/08/2010 00:08

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lookingtothefuture · 07/08/2010 00:21

I think that's far preferable and a good indication of character - someone who is active and gets stuck in and not on the sidelines watching. There will be plenty of time for them to get dressed up in the future ( and at that point we will probably be wishing they were tomboys again!)

RobynLou · 07/08/2010 00:21

my DD is only tiny, 3 next week, so v hesitant to label her anything, but if I were to give her a label, it would have to be tomboy.
she's not really aware of what she's wearing much yet, but is OBSSESSED with trains and dinosaurs and has been for over a year, she has one doll which she never looks at, a dolls buggy which she pretends is a car. We can't go past a building site/roadworks without stopping to watch. she's so noticeably different to most of the other little girls we know that are her age

dooneygirl · 07/08/2010 00:29

My DD (5 this month) is a complete and total tomboy, also. I think this comes from having a brother that is 2 years older than she is. She hates pink, and loves Bakugan, Star Wars, Lego and Transformers. I'm actually really happy that she's a tomboy, as so many of the girls around are total drama queens, and she is SOOOO not into that.

She has pretty much no interest into playing with any of the girls at her preschool, TBH. She very much hangs out with the boys, and has a very brother-sister type relationship with pretty much all of them in her class. She can hold her own with them, and is accepted by the boys as as being "one of the lads", and is perfectly happy with that. She doesn't seem to be ostracized by the other girls, and on the rare occasions she wants to play with them, they will play with her.

missmoopy · 07/08/2010 12:06

Thanks ladies. I don't mind that she is a tomboy at all, and I agree that it is better than having a prissy little princess obsessed girl. I am sure she will find friends who also like things that she likes but at moment all the girls in her year possess a fondness for HSM etc. Some girls have said "those toys are for boys" and she was a little upset, but we have talked about retorts to comments like that. She is a confident happy girl. She WANTS to play with other girls though, although gets on with boys better. I think she feels she SHOULD play with girls, even though we have avoided gender stereotypes as much as possible. I am sure she will work it out, and we often talk about identity etc so sure she will be fine.

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ZZZenAgain · 07/08/2010 12:08

yes, didn't expect it or particularly encourage it but that's how she is. Actually I think it is great. Mine is 9 no real sign of a change.
she has a heart attack at the thought of wearing a skirt. She gets on with boys and girls but she doesn't do any of the girly stuff, she doesn't mind that others do

ZZZenAgain · 07/08/2010 12:10

send her to sport, she will find plenty of girls on her wavelength at sport. If she is like mine she won't do ballet, jazz dance, gymnastic route anyway

missmoopy · 07/08/2010 12:18

She goes to Rainbows and gets along with the girls there as they do physical activites and art which she enjoys. She goes to swimmig lessons too.
She wants to start football so looking for local age appropriate club.
My Mum says she will end up a lesbian! How strange that a) that would matter and b) being a tomboy equates to being a lesbian!!!

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CoinOperatedGirl · 07/08/2010 12:34

Dd is nearly 7 and a tomboy, her favourite thing in the whole world is pokemon, she doesn't care in the least what she wears tbh, she's as happy in a dress as trousers. She also gets on with boys and girls Luckily, there are a few very girly girls in her class but lots who arent into the whole hsm sparkly fashion thing.

She's never been into dolls etc and she barely plays with toys these days anyway. The lesbian comment Is ridiculous, another mum asked me if I was worried that my son would be gay when I mentioned he liked wearing his sisters dress.Hmm people are odd.

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