Worried about being the only person who can settle my baby

[Abubu]

Hi,

Plese could someone offer me some advice?

DD3 is 3 months old. She is very clingy and I am the only person who can settle her when she is crying - for whatever reason, not just hunger.
If someone else picks her up even when she is not crying, she starts crying, apart from if it is DH, but if she is not tired or hungry he can't settle her.

I didn't have this with my other girls, but not sure if it is because I am breast feeding DD3 she is more attached to me?
(I bottle fed before because I had twins)

DH spends a lot of time looking after the twins because of this and therefore doesn't spend as much time with DD3 as he would like.

Anyway, I am worried because I am going to be a bridesmaid in Sept. I don't know what I am going to do, especially in the morning when I am supposed to be helping the bride. I can't really have DD3 attached to me permanently but worried that she will kick off and be hysterical by the time I get to the church if I am not with her.

Please help!
Thanks!

I forgot to add - I can only ever get her to nap for half an hour (max) every few hours so there is little chance of her sleeping through the ceremony!

So that give DH 6ish weeks to spend time with your DD, and find what comforts her. By then she my take a bit of your breast milk from a cup, and you can leave a top you've worn so it smells like you with her.

I had thi s problem with dS1; he was just 4 moths old when I got married. He survived.

Can't really help but FWIW I don't think it's the breastfeeding. DD1 was as your describe, DD2 is very relaxed & happy to be with anyone, so it's more to do with her personality than anything you've 'done'.

All I can suggest is that you continue to leave DD3 with DH as frequently as poss (even if only for a min at a time while you pop upstairs) & then take her back before she becomes upset. This might help her realise that you do return and daddy time is not distressing!

Have you tried offering EBM in a bottle? Did this couple of weeks ago with DD2 and after being offered twice a day for about 3 days she will now take it fine.

Good luck

My dh found it a lot harder to settle dd if I was around. If he had some EBM in a bottle and I was out, dd would be absolutely fine with him. If you're in the house and she's aware of you/can smell you (and believe me, they can smell breastmilk from across the house!) then she probably won't accept substitutes! How is she with your DH if you're out?

my ds was like this. i wouldn't have wanted to be a bridesmaid, with a four month old. is there another bridesmaid that could help the bride?