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Anyone else's dc have bad behaviour after a special treat/day out?

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llynnnn · 29/07/2010 17:15

Everytime we treat dd1 (4 on saturday) we suffer afterwards! For example, yesterday ma and dh left dd2 at home with a sitter and took dd1 out for lunch then to see Toy Story as a special treat. She loved it, was so good throughout and we all had a lovely time. The second we got home though she started misbehaving - shouting, back-chatting, not listening. Not serious stuff but very frustrating when we've just had such a lovely time!
This happens everytime she has a special treat or we give her lots of attention!

Does anyone else notice this too? Makes me feel like not bothering treating her again!

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OrmRenewed · 29/07/2010 17:17

Yes. Often. And it leads to the pointless 'why are you being so ungrateful' conversation . It's a combination of tiredness, excitement and the feeling of disappointment that the treat has passed. IMO

LEMONADEGIRL · 29/07/2010 20:57

We have the same with DS nearly 4, the last treat was Toy Story as well, he was a horror the next day for me

So frustrating but guess it is an age thing

fatlip · 29/07/2010 21:04

Me too. No idea why. He is also 4. Hopefully is just a phase

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llynnnn · 29/07/2010 21:09

glad its not just my little horror then interesting that they are all 4 too, hope its just another phase!

Its her birthday on Saturday and party on Sunday, after all these treats and being spoilt rotten all weekend I think I'm lucky to be at work on monday poor nursery!!

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MumInBeds · 29/07/2010 21:24

Both of mine did at about that age, they do grow out of it. (My youngest is 7 and hasn't had that issue since she was 5 1/2 ish).

Ilythia · 29/07/2010 21:46

Oh god, dd1 is 4 and now i think about it you are right. She is always uberbrat after a special treat, demanding more stuff and winding up her sister, whereas today we went old school and went round to a friends house to play and they were lovely afterwards. No more treats is the way to go!

Ceebee74 · 29/07/2010 21:49

Oh it is like a penny has dropped here

DS1 was a little brat on Monday for me and DH and we were wondering why he had suddenly had a personality transplant.....we had been oto see ITNG live on Sunday and then gone out for tea with some friends so generally it had been a special day etc etc and reading this thread, it all makes sense!

Funnily enough, he has just turned 4 too.

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llynnnn · 30/07/2010 08:44

So its defintely a four year old thing then! Great stuff! Hope dd1 grows out of it before 5.5 though Muminbeds!

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emdanmum · 30/07/2010 08:51

Don't want to be a pain, but DD (nearly 8) is the same. If she has special 1-1 (or me and DH) time, when she has to "share" us again with DS she is horrible! Don't neccessarily think it's an age thing, maybe there's an element of rivalry there?

Ilythia · 30/07/2010 08:55
Poshpaws · 30/07/2010 08:57

DS1 still does it on occassion. He is 9. DS3 did it to me yesterday after we had left the cinema after Toy Story 3. He is 3.

Maybe not age, but over excitement/over whelment (sp?) Or Toy Story 3 ?

emdanmum · 30/07/2010 09:06

Sorry Ilythia

Poshpaws - maybe the makers of Toy Story should put an advisory notice on it ...... may cause brattish outbursts!!

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llynnnn · 30/07/2010 09:23

poshpaws! lets blame Toy Story not our darling delightful dc!!

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OrmRenewed · 30/07/2010 09:44

Yep my DS is 7

dreamworld · 30/07/2010 12:29

I have learnt my lesson over the years - they are much happier the less they get!

My dcs are suffering rampant consumerism at the hands of the grandparents at the moment, and they are HORRIBLE. We've had theme parks, toy shops, soft play, zoo...unbelievable. I offered them a choice between pick 'n' mix or a packet of sweets in town yesterday which would normally be a lovely treat, and dd(4) immediately asked why she couldn't have both.

I can't wait to get home and do nothing.

emdanmum · 30/07/2010 20:05

dreamworld - couldn't agree more!!

we always have a couple of "come down" days, but once they get into a simpler life treats become treats again.

Blahrahrah · 30/07/2010 20:10

This thread is so comforting! I have a four year old here.....

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llynnnn · 30/07/2010 20:18

dreamworld - sounds just like my house!! grandparents are great at spoiling them (I know thats their job. but its us that have to pick up the pieces!)

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Ceebee74 · 30/07/2010 20:27

Well I better prepare myself for a hellish Monday again then as we are taking DS1 to see Toy Story on Sunday

EmmaCB1 · 30/07/2010 21:31

Relieved to read this. My DS1 is nearly 4 and also acts up. It's as if he can't cope with the extreme pleasure emotion or something and so has to spoil it for himself?! At least that's what DH thinks. So frustrating though, especially when I've been trying so hard to have special 1:1 time with him since DS2 arrived in March. Sigh. It's a phase like everything else, isn't it, but labelling it so doesn't make it any easier!

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llynnnn · 30/07/2010 21:44

It is very frustrating Emma, dd2 is 13months now and since she was born I've tried so hard with 1:1 time for dd1 so she doesnt get jealous, but each time we make a special effort she is awful afterwards!

ceebee - dont do it!! wait for the dvd!!

dd1's birthday tomorrow and party on sunday nursery on monday hehe!!

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catsdontscreetch · 30/07/2010 21:58

I think (hope) it's a common occurrence, DD is almost 6, and we still get it (ungrateful little madam!!)

We're off to see Shrek tomorrow, and I do wonder if it is worth it. But on the plus side she did settle very quickly tonight

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