Marbles in jar reward method

[GreatGooglyMoogly]

Hi, I am at my wits end with ds1 (6) and (only) taking things away isn't working anymore so I want to start the marbles in a jar method where you add marbles if they're good and take them away if they're naughty. Can someone who already does this explain to me how many marbles at the end of the week gets the child a reward/ how many is not good (and what happens then?); how big is your jar, how many marbles do you give out in a day on average, etc. please? TIA.

i do this with my class at school. we decide how many marbles and what a suitable reward is. this also helps give them ownership of the idea and helps them to value it.

remember

• lots of marbles = big reward BUT need patience for payout.
• fewer marbles = smaller reward so instant hit

i'd start with say 3-5 and a little treat.

next time decide if that was too long/ quick and adapt accordingly

oh and i never take marbles away!
i think it de-values the good iyswim.

Started doing this with dd (5) a few weeks ago. We have a large jam jar, when she does something little and good, e.g. like remembering to say 'please can I have a drink' without being prompted instead of 'i'm thirsty!' or staying in bed until bunny clock wakes up she gets a small standard size marble. For being on her best behaviour, or doing really good things e.g. swimming about 3 metres (needed an incentive to believe she could do it!) she gets a large marble. She has days when she has several and days when she has none, I've only once taken one out. When its full she gets a lg treat of her choice, like a friend over to play,trip to seaside etc she hasn't decided what yet, but I will give her options and then she gets to choose her reward, it seems genenerally to be working well.

Brilliant, thanks - must go out and buy some marbles!

I have done this at work and home, it works well but be realistic with the size of the jar, rewards need to be frequent or it gets boring.
Oh and please don't take them out for a punishment because he has earnt them by being good, if he is a pain just say, I was going to give you a marble for being sensible but now I cant, or something similar.