Why do children lie about things that don't matter and carry on lying even when you have said they won't get into trouble?

[coventgarden]

I know, I've been here long enough! Thanks for being kind. Though I had hoped the apology would go both ways but it seems not.

Oh well!

Not you apologising, I mean OP btw. Shake hands and all that.

I had no idea you were the woman having contraception issues and if I had, wouldn't have mentioned it on here as thread about a thread is bad form.

Since you mentioned it first then it is fine for me to mention it. I said I hoped you weren't pregnant for the baby's sake as you seem very mixed up and that can't be good for a nice pregnancy and time with a newborn. It is also very early in your relationship and I felt if you weren't coping with the situation you are in now, then adding a baby into the mix, won't help matters.

Is the father a person you have known for a while or is he a new boyfriend?

As for apologies going both ways, I haven't seen one.

I am sorry you are upset by what I said but you have totally over reacted over me posting my dd was acting like a cow as it isn't like she will ever know I typed it and that should be all that matters.

Right, missed some posts. I see you apologised for arguing but not for what you said. No need to apologise for arguing. You are entitled to your opinion.

I'm not going to discuss it further with you.

That is fine, of course.

Children lie because they are learning about reality. To them, what they wish to have happened, happened. To you, they are just being minxy and you wish they'd stop.

I can stand there pointing at the very visible puddle on the floor and say 'did you knock over the milk?' and she'll say no. I can say 'I don't mind I just wondered if it was you because we'll need to check you haven't got wet trousers', she will still claim it was her brother even when he's miles away because she genuinely wishes it hadn't happened, isn't really aware of why it happened and thinks perhaps therefore the logical explanation is that her brother did it.

AKA kids are weird.

They really are .

It can also be shame, and/or embarrassment. DD hardly ever vomited at all as a baby/toddler but once she did when she was very ill. She tried to convince me that it was the dog who did it.

Oh yes, our cat has nicked chocolate buttons out of my handbag before as well