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16 month old poor sleeper - not napping

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Yarnie · 27/07/2010 13:05

Current problem:

How can I get my son to nap?

My son's napping schedule has gone up the creek. He used to sleep in his buggy for about 2 hours, falling asleep on the way back from playgroup at around 11-11.30am. He naps once during the day. From speaking to other mums, this seems like an early nap.

He now does not fall asleep, although he seems very tired. If he does not fall asleep at this stage in the day, we have very great trouble getting him to nap, i.e. We can't.

Can anyone suggest what might be going on here?

Things I have tried:

Walking him in his buggy for longer. He doesn't fall asleep and gets very upset.

Giving him his lunch at 11.30am when we get home. This totally fails. He is either too tired or not hungry enough to eat.

Taking him to his room and reading books and trying to settle him for a nap in his bed. He seems to want to be in bed, but gets increasingly upset at not being able to fall asleep, until he's more or less hysterical.

Temporary solution:

No nap, if he seems to be able to struggle through.

Although he has been day weaned for 3 months, I have been BF him to sleep on the occasions when he seems like he us going to melt down through tiredness. Obviously, this is not a good solution. This has only been on one or two days.

Background:

My son has always woken frequently at night and we have BF him back to sleep. Over the 3 months, we have been sleep training often, with success, but he regresses quickly. A permanent improvement is that he is able to get himself off to sleep at bedtime.

We are sleep training again and he is down to one brief awakening at night. He will now accept water rather than boob and often seems very thirsty. I can handle this and, in fact, often wake quite thirsty myself.

Our napping schedule has always been as outlined above. I did not engineer it, he has just fallen asleep at this time. We have no other means of getting him to sleep in the day. At weekends, we go to the playground and he slept on the way back - or used to!

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Chil1234 · 27/07/2010 14:39

You try an afternoon 'lie down'. I found that as they get older, they seem to be able to bypass the morning nap because they have more energy but are zonked by about 2pm. Is he still in a cot with sides or a bed? If it's a bed now then make sure his room is as unstimulating as possible, lie him down in the bed and close the curtains a little. You can explain it's just a quiet lie down rather than any need to go to sleep. He may just lie there daydreaming but if he's really tired (which he must be) then he may well drop off. Even if he just gets half an hour peace and quiet in his day it might calm him.

Diet is another area to check. Make sure he's getting plenty of food to eat. Nothing keeps kids awake like an empty tummy IME....

Good luck

Yarnie · 28/07/2010 13:36

That's a good tip Chil1234.

The trouble we have is that our son very much wants to be asleep when he is tired and gets upset that he can't sleep - or that is how it seems. He is very happy to have quiet time in a dark room (he will even instigate it) but as soon as he is tired enough to want to sleep, the upset starts.

An afternoon rest, if he was tired, would simply result in escalating crying until he can hardly catch his breath.

I BF him to sleep again today. So depressing. I wish I could teach him another way to fall asleep.

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lindsell · 28/07/2010 13:52

Have you tried a buggy cover so he can't see out/hear what's going on so easily? My ds (15mo) hasn't properly gone to sleep in the buggy for several months now but if he is really tired and I have no other option I put the hood up and the raincover on and then he will sometimes go to sleep.

Do you have a car? If ds is really exhausted then he will usually fall asleep within about 15mins of driving around.

Perhaps as he's getting older he is no longer using up enough energy by 11.30 to go to sleep. Could you go the park or something after the playgroup and let him walk/crawl around for a bit before going home in the buggy (with the hope that as he's that bit more tired he would fall asleep)?

BF to sleep is no longer working for me - he is generally too interested in what else is going on so at least that is still working for you!

Yarnie · 28/07/2010 14:06

Thanks, Lindsell. I'm certain you are right about it being too early for his nap. I actually managed to get him to have lunch at 11.30-12 which was a development. We then played for an hour until he seemed tired. It all went to pieces when he was lying on his bed, very tired and unable to drop off.

I'll definitely continue to give him "early" lunch.

Covering the buggy is a big no-no. He flips out if he can't see. He also hates his car seat and hasn't fallen asleep in it for months. I'm pretty loathe to get into driving him to sleep, anyway, as we are in central London.

I think from next week, I am just not going to BF him to sleep and we'll be forced to find a solution. Unless anyone has any other suggestions?

Sigh. It ain't going to be pretty.

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Chil1234 · 28/07/2010 14:30

Maybe some music in his bedroon when he's lying down trying to sleep would be nicely distracting. There really is nothing worse than lying down, totally quiet and thinking 'I can't sleep'...your thoughts keep you awake. Soft music to listen to might be more soothing.

Or how about a dummy? BF at that age is more that they want something comforting to suck. A dummy might be a solution if that's the case.

Yarnie · 28/07/2010 14:42

Music is a great idea. I will definitely try that.

Although, he has been slow coming off the boob, he has never been interested in a dummy.

He is a very active child and I think he finds it very difficult to be still in the day and fall asleep. It's probably why he preferred sleeping in his pushchair all this time.

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